(Closed) Rudest post engagement comment

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 121
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This girl I use to work with randomly stopped me while out shopping. Shes like let me see your ring and stares at it for a good few minutes and proceeds to talk about herself. My best friend said that she can tell she was jealous of my ring. I can careless what people think of my ring, but at least say congrats! 

Post # 122
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Dogmummy:  she actually prefers yours 😛

Post # 123
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We got a lot of ‘finally’ comments as we’d been together almost 9 years when Fiance proposed but they don’t really bother me. 

FI’S cousins wife has made a few rude comments though…honestly, she’s a peach 😉 They had a whirlwind relationship (engaged after 3 months then married the day after her divorce came through…9 months after they met) and she has repeatedly mentioned that couples in long term relationships are more likely to get divorced…erm, thanks for that.

The first time she saw my ring she walked off without making any comment at all (she has told me countless times how expensive her ring was but my centre stone is bigger. ..not that it matters). After a few months, she eventually asked to have a look at it. She stared at it for ages then her only comment was ‘is it platinum?’ (It’s not, it’s 18 carat white gold) then ‘mine is’ before dropping my hand and walking off

She also told me her ‘sexy’ dress was a size 8 and that I should avoid buying that style (mermaid) as I’m far too big to pull it off before handing me a stack of diet magazines to help me lose weight for the wedding lol.

Post # 124
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

willow33:  holy crap!

Post # 125
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277 posts
Helper bee

kikilo:  Saw the Arkansas comment and I have to ask, what’s your venue? SO is super set on Mt Magazine, but I wanna look at different options. Sorry to be weird. And yes, those are all super rude comments. We’re waiting on an engagement ring and then he has to talk to my dad and I am soooo dreading what my stepmother has to say. 

Post # 126
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Worker bee

I mean, the weight comment, it’s true that lifting weights isn’t going to make you bigger so that’s nonsense, but I don’t see it as the most egregious thing for them to note if you’ve gained weight. They’re doing your dress fitting, after all.

My wedding dress shop told me to not to try on a certain dress because it would make me look big compared to my then-FI, who is skinny as heck. I wear a size zero, but definitely have the skinny-fat problem. It was okay though; I appreciated her honesty more than if she’d pretended that everything looked beautiful on me.

My rudest comment was from a family friend of mine who’d never met my fiance. “Wow! So you finally managed to find someone?” (I was 34 at the time.) Her personality is just kind of blunt and direct, but I hadn’t thought she was one of those people who think that you need to marry by a certain age. But I know her mom and she is basically the most judgmental person ever, so I guess that kind of mentality just rubbed off. My friend is mostly a nice person though. 

Post # 129
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Um, I was told I didn’t have a real engagement ring because it was a purple gemstone. . .by ladies who were single. They would tell me, when I get engaged I will definitely get a diamond. Good for you but I am engaged and I love my ring and my fiancé!

Post # 130
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

After 9 years we got a lot of “finally’s” but didn’t particularly find it rude. My boss did tell me not to even think about “running off and getting married” or “getting pregnant” any time soon though!

Post # 131
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

People keep saying, “is the wedding still on?” And “I’ll wait to make my travel plans until closer to the wedding. I mean…haha it is you.” It’s starting to really make me mad because this is engagement 1, we’ve been together for 4 years and have an entirely merged life. And we arent one of those on again/off again couples…it’s been a steady run. It’s mostly from my siblings who are significantly older than me and don’t seem to realize I’m an adult who isn’t here to be their punching bag. So I think the rudest comment was from FIs “best friend” (really a jealous female buddy who has always been super rude to me) who told him, “oh okay” when he told her he was proposing. Then dropped it and that was that. What is wrong with people?! I wouldnt dream about being like this to someone surrounding their engagement. 

Post # 132
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Oh man…people are crazy! Here were the things people said to me:

– My coworker: “When people are engaged that long, I think they’re waiting for someone better to come along.” (We have a 14 month engagement and we have been together for 3 years now)

– Old co-worker: “I think people don’t like that type of reception” (after I excitedly explained our plans); “You really can’t just pick one to be maid of honor? That’s confusing to people.” (after I said my sisters were my only bridesmaids and I decided that they were all maids of honor)

– Friend’s mom: “Well, you need to make sure the wedding is legal. My kids did it the right way, in a church.” (After saying my best friend and future sister-in-law were officiating our wedding)

What is nice is that people are largely really excited and supportive, and the only people being annoying or rude are people whose opinions don’t matter to us!

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