Ruined my engagement

posted 3 months ago in Engagement
Post # 47
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153 posts
Blushing bee

Deana1 :  I’m questioning if this is even a real post or not. If it is, what’s the matter with you??? He proposed. He’s making a commitment and asking you to be his wife, and choosing to spend the rest of his life with you. To which you accepted and said YES. Yet, you complain because you didn’t get to be the fairytale princess for the day in Disney with Prince Charming? Think about what your saying. You need a reality check; be happy with your REAL life and work on building with this man, instead of living in a pretend ideal of “how it should be.” 

Post # 48
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I feel you, bee. I mean, what kind of guy doesn’t go out of his way to specify that he loves you when he asks you to marry him? Mine isn’t all that romantic, but he was still all like, “WILL I-love-you YOU I-love-you MARRY love-your-face ME love-you?!” And even then I wasn’t sure how he felt about us. I’m not even sure how far we’re gonna make it, honestly. He forgot our aloe plant’s birthday yesterday, and I’m really doubting his committment to this family now. 

Post # 49
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4469 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

pbubs :  Wait, wait. He proposed to you with barely enough “I love you”s AND didn’t somehow include your aloe plant in things? How can he possibly be commited to you AND the plant if he didn’t make the plant feel special on your special day? Did he at least film things and have the trip (INCLUDING Aloe) to Disney planned? I think you’re right to question his commitment…

Post # 50
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5837 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Post # 53
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2848 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I got my fairytale…but I married the Ogre. He’s way more interesting. 

I feel like even saying the phrase “fairytale love” immediately disqualifies you from being ready for marriage. 

Post # 54
Member
340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Oh man this post is too much, you sound WAY too young to be getting married. I really hope the fight was not about how you think he failed at proposing because if it was, I doubt you will be getting another one. An engagement / marriage is about committing to the person you love, nothing else. You sound very entitled!

That being said, my engagement actually WAS at Disney, but it was for a much more personal reason to both of us than just a fairy tale!

annabananabee :   bee123456789 :  While it may not sound romantic, it was for me and my husband only because we grew up going to Disneyland. We both have family connections there and spent our childhoods going, I even have a small mickey mouse tattoo for my Grandpa who used to work there. My MIL also works there so our first date almost 6 years ago was actually at Disneyland. We go 1-2 times a year and it is a very sentimental place for both of us and our families.

I guess he knew for years that he wanted to propose in front of Sleeping Beauty’s castle, so once he had the ring it was just a matter of scheduling a “random” trip for us to go. His mom let us in and walked us to the castle because she was working in the back of the park. When we got there, she said super casually let me take a picture of you two here before I go back to work, so we gave her our phones, and she got the whole proposal on video! Perfect.

So yeah, it was romantic and a fairy tale for ME because of our family history. But OP, please do not berate your boyfriend for not proposing to your insane standards. I still would have married him even if he proposed at our home in our pajamas.

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