- 4 years ago
I ruined my proposal!!!!!! UGGGGGGG now I’m back to waiting.
Well SO and I had an anniversary last Tuesday. We decided that we would celebrate on the weekend because I was swamped with work. Anyway SO had been acting strange all last week, nothing specific, just weird. Anyway, last Monday he proceeded to act even weirder, for example, he NEVER misses work, but he overslept Monday and missed work (never set the alarm, he normally sets two). Monday night as I sat at the computer working he just sat on the couch across the room and stared at me (he never sits on the couch), when I glanced over he quickly averted his eyes (little odd things). His phone kept going off to, I mean it went off more during the last week than in the last 3 months combined. He seemed really antsy so I finally asked him if he was ok, he seemed startled and was like yeah what do you mean? How am I acting funny? What am I doing that’s funny?
Fast forward to Tuesday (our anniversary), SO literally does not acknowledge our anniversary in ANY way. Granted we were going out to celebrate on Friday, but my SO is the sweetest most romantic man ever and this was NOT like him. He sends flowers to my job just because, gives me foot rubs if I have a rough day, constantly touches me (rubs my back, plays in my hair, ect) to acknowledge my presence, and then on our anniversary NOTHING. Not a card, a text message, not even a hug, literally no acknowledgment at all, and the next day he did the same thing. I mean completely ignored me.
I was crushed and very hurt. I spoke to my sister and she said it seemed that maybe he was loosing interest in the relationship. I had not considered that because we have an amazing relationship, but her comment got me thinking; especially because of his odd behavior. So I gave him major attitude the last few days. He wanted to go to a REALLY expensive restaurant for our anniversary Friday (I’m talking $400 + average for two to eat) and I refused because 1. I thought it was too expensive 2. I thought he was just trying to suck up for screwing up on our anniversary, so I just wasn’t in the mood.
Wellllllllllll long story short, I found out that he planned to propose last Friday. He had everything set and good to go. His family was in on it (that’s why his phone was going off so much), and he was REALLY nervous about asking my dad. So I was fussing with him, he missed work, his tire blew the next day on his way to work, it rained (it was supposed to happen outdoors because he had someone outside the restaurant to film it), and everything just went wrong!!!!
Soooo now I’m waiting again. It’s funny to me now, but when I first found out I felt so stupid!! If I could go back about 7 days and do it all over!!! I also think it’s adorable how much time and effort he put into our now-not-happening until he makes a new plan to throw me off proposal. He was so goofy and then when I asked him about his odd behavior he said that freaked him out and I “would know,” he was proposing so that’s why he ignored me and our anniversary to throw me off. Well he threw me off alright : ) I thought he wanted to leave!!
I know some will say you are already engaged if you know you will marry, but the proposal is VERY important to him, he wants his moment….so I guess I will continue to wait. Just had to share now that I can laugh about it