- 6 years ago
BACKGROUND: Well, my boyfriend is simply terrible with jewelry and he knows it. Despite the “hints” I give and showing him exactly what I’m looking for, he tells me he doesn’t like my choices and then will forget what I’ve shown him and say he has no clue what I’d like and asked I just pick it out. So I did according to the one that he AND I both like (which really wasn’t a ring I had my heart set on -I really wanted a antique 1920’s ring with emerald and not expensive but he is extremely wary about buying from places that are not stores).
And then he asked me to order it for him… and I finally agreed. Then there was an issue and he works until 11am most days and someone needed to speak to a representative during the morning… so that job fell onto me. Basically I had a good idea of when he would be receiving the ring in the mail. He also promised to propose before the end of July… which leaves 9 full days.
STORY: Well yesterday with a migrane and being starved of food and being super emotional due to hormones, we visited his grandma and she grabbed my hand and asked where’s my ring… that his mom said that he gave me the ring… and my boyfriend said it came in the mail but he didn’t ask yet… and they stood staring at eachother and me… then I came to find out that OTHER people know about this too because someone else told some other relatives who told friends. What if I said no to his request?!
Well, needless to say I was really upset. I don’t so much care about a ring. I did want a beautiful heartfelt proposal that was a surprise. I wanted the special memory. He wants to just hand me the ring now because it’s all messed up.
Driving home I tried to change the subject, he snapped at me. Drove me to my car which was at his house, got out of his car, walked in to his house, and slammed the door with me on the outside (not in my face). He decided to sleep the rest of the day. I feel like I did nothing wrong and I feel like I got 99% of the badstuff. I gave in with the ring choice, with ordering the ring, with fixing the problems, with his grandma and with everyone knowing (save my family), and with him sleeping the rest of the day.
My best girlfriend says he doesn’t have his stuff together yet, that he can’t deal, and maybe right now isn’t the time for us. I’m mad at his family. He said that it’s good his grandma knows because she’s old (my grandma is 91 -about 10 years older than his and doesnt know), I’m mad at him. To defend him, he’s normally very sweet, loves a bunch of things that I do (hiking, spending time with friends, movies etc), loves me, and I do baby him for all the love he showers on me. I’m still hurt.
What do you think!??! I need help from all the fellow bee’s out there!