Post # 1
So I was just watching the episode of Friends where Mike is trying to propose to Phoebe and she keeps ruining it. First they are at a basketball game and someone else proposes on the jumbotron and she mentions how cheesy/tacky she thinks that is– turns out he was going to do the same thing that night! Then she tries to make it up to him by proposing to him on a jumbotron and they get mocked by the crowd for her proposing. Then they go to dinner and she tells him she’ll say yes no matter how he proposes, even if it is “like in those cheesy movies where the guy puts the ring in the cake” and yup… it is in the cake.
Got me thinking— did anyone else “ruin” their proposal??
Post # 3
Fiance is planning a proposal once the ring is paid off (we had a talk before, we’ve picked out the ring and told immediate family, but he wanted the ring for The Proposal.) and so I’m forbidden from thinking about it! He’s afraid that I’ll get an idea of the perfect proposal in my head (okay, I may have a few, but I’ll love whatever he does!) and his won’t live up to that. I think that’s so sweet. I hope I don’t unknowingly ruin it in a Phoebe-esque manner. We’ve covered the absolutely nots (like a Jumbo Tron!) already though.
Post # 4
I did! I’m sad to say it is true. FH wanted it to be a complete surprise but I knew he was going to do it the weekend he did (just because he wanted to be something special and we had a trip planned and he had the ring for 3 months. Plus he picked out these gardens for us to visit that he was dead set on going to). Well he is slow in the morning and I went to help him along so we could get ready faster and when I started to go into his bag he was like “don’t go in there…I have something for you and it’s not your e-ring”. And the rest is history…
Post # 5
@lilyfaith- I’m with you… it is so hard to wait!! My bff told me that my bf has a ring and we are heading on vacation this Friday so it is the obvious time. He has no idea that I know whats up… so I just need to do my best to KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT and play it cool. 🙂
@sanddollar- that is kind of a cute story! the nice thing, I think, is that even a “ruined” proposal isn’t really ruined because you end up engaged and it’s usually a funny story!
Post # 6
@corgi: i didn’t realize your vacation was that soon!! where has hte time gone?! how exciting!! you have to keep us updated, but seriously don’t think about it. he is definitely waiting on the right moment to ask you to be his wife.
Post # 7
@crebre- ah! i have thought of him as my husband a million times but that might be the first time that i ever thought of the word “wife”…. so weird! And kind of awesome! 🙂
Post # 8
@corgi – yay! i’m excited for you that it’ll possibly be so soon. Can’t wait to hear how he asks. 🙂
Post # 9
@corgi: That is kinda what happened to me. I knew it was going to be that weekend because of clues leading up to it. Yay to it happening soon!!! How exciting
Post # 10
I did, because I’m a control-freak and told Fiance where to propose hah ;D But I knew about my ring, we ordered it together, and we decided together when he’d do it. But I took it a step further by dictating where I wanted him to do it. But I loved it anyway, and it wasn’t exactly shocking to anyone that I did it that way. BUT, in the end, I didn’t know which of two graveyards he’s propose in, and I was totally not paying attention to him and was taking pics while at one, so he ended up surprising me anyway heh
Post # 11
@corgi:hmmm i’ve never thought of the word wife either only husband.. .well actually only fiance! lol husband sounds really strange to me right now!
@arineya: i wish i had the control in the proposal!! but it’s sooo his thing. i mean i have zero control over it and slowly but surely i’m becoming okay with it. i am actually more curious than anything now about everything he has in store and what the ring looks like
Post # 12
Yes, i love friends!
I didn’t ruin mine, persay, but I knew it was coming when he got all “oh let’s sit on the bench’ mmmhmmm.
Him: “take off your sunglasses, i want to talk to you”
Me: “but it’s so bright!”
Him: “just do it”. Blah blah blah sappy stuff.
Holds ring out at me
Me: “Are you going to ask me to marry you officially or what?”
Him: “oh yeah! Will you marry me?”
He wasn’t getting off scott free w/o actually asking me!! He was just so nervous =]
Post # 13
I am guilty of ruining my proposal. The night that my FH had planned to propose I was visiting a friend a few hours away. I had planned on being home for supper and we were going to have a movie night. I didn’t end up getting home until around 11pm and was extremely tired. He kept trying to get me to watch a movie, but all I wanted to do was go to bed. I put on sweatpants, a ratty t-shirt, and climbed into bed. After several attempts he finally gave up and proposed in our bedroom. Even though I ruined it, the proposal was perfect. It was definitely us!
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Haha my Fiance was terrified that I was going to ruin it! He proposed the first night of our cruise we went on this summer, and I remember thinking he was being strangely protective of his suitcase – he wouldn’t let me help carry ANYTHING! I kept protesting and he just kept getting mad at me, haha. Then he put the ring in the safe in the room, but he was worried that I’d end up finding it – so instead of waiting until the middle of the cruise like he was planning, he proposed on the first night so he could relax!
Post # 15
I did!!! My Fiance and I were at Zales paying off my necklace and when I went to go look at my dream ring in the case, he acted very uninterested and told me that he wanted to leave and I got upset and very pouty!!! I sat there and yelled at him for not taking me seriously, and I was going to leave him since he was never going to propose! I was crying and very upset that I ended up making him very upset!.. He pulled out the ring in the Jewelery store (very angry..i must add) and said.. “IF YOU WOULD HAVE KEPT YOUR MOUTH SHUT, AND LET ME DO WHAT IM SUPPOSE TO DO.. YOU WOULD HAVE HAD THIS RING BY THE END OF THE MONTH!!!!!”” needless to say, I ruined my proposal! Im glad to say we laugh about it now, I have my man, and my favorite ring!!
Post # 16
I think I could have easily ruined my proposal. My bf had said he wanted the last half of 2008 to be stress free (it had already been a busy year) so he didn’t want to get engaged until 2009. He took me away for my birthday in November and a few signs pointed to a proposal, like he suggested we take this bottle of super fancy champagne with us (it had been in the fridge for 3 years so I thought something special might be happening!) and that we spend my birthday climbing a mountain, plus I’d found a brochure in the car that suggested he’d been looking at rings. But I was determined to not be disappointed if it didn’t happen so I tried to not expect anything, and when we got to the top of the mountain and he got down on bended knee, I was still thrilled and so glad I hadn’t tried to second guess him. After nearly 6 years together and all our conversations about it, I don’t think I was ever going to be REALLY surprised by a proposal, so this was as close as we were going to get. I’ve never let on that I had my suspicions, because he planned such a great weekend and got so many compliments about his original idea 🙂