Post # 1
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Worker bee
Hey sweet bees! I posted a couple of weeks ago that I think I’m getting engaged very soon. The problem is, I nicely suggested SO didn’t propose on 4-19, (my previous wedding day with ex H)
Well, now I think I ruined the planned engagement! :((
My family moved our Easter picnic to 4-19, (due to the “weather”) and I think he was planning to propose on that day with my whole family present. Now, I’m KICKING myself!!!
Did any of you put your foot in your mouth or ruin the surprise?
I could just cry! Oh and btw, his response to my request was “well, if I did ask you on that day, it would give you a new reason to remember that day AND you wouldn’t be expecting it”.
Post # 2
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Helper bee
I understand his sentiment on trying to make that day better in your memory but I agree that it would be really awkward to propose on that day and I wouldn’t want my SO to do that.
Could you talk to someone in your family and request that the picnic be moved again?
You’ll get your proposal! Don’t worry too much, and I kind of know how you feel in a way, since my SO has had my ring at his house for about six weeks now, and I’m going nuts, too…
Post # 3
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Worker bee
Thanks! I just keep thinking “should I have kept my mouth shut and let it happen on that day?” I want to have a brand new day that is our own. But at this point, it actually wouldnt bother me if he did ask on that day. He had a point. It would be a new way to remember it by.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
Mrs.sinish: I told my Fiance I didn’t want him to propose on valentines day becase it was the day I got married to my now ex husband in 2009. He said the same thing your SO said: “it will give you reason to love that day again.” what did he do? He proposed on Valentine’s Day lol. If he wants to do it, he’s gonna do it. And trust me, you won’t care that it was you and your ex’s anniversary. In fact, it won’t even cross your mind. good luck!
Post # 5
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Worker bee
BMoreBecc: thank you! That’s so good to know!! You’re right, he’s going to do it when he wants to do it and if the moment is right!
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
Aww you didn’t ruin it, he is still going to propose. I can totally understand you wanting that day to not be the day since it’s your old anniversary, and I’m sure your fiancée understands too.
Honestly though…I dont remember when DH proposed. Does that make me a bad wife?!? in my defense, it was pre-social media so it’s not like I have Timehop reminding me every year.
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
Stop overthinking it. It will happen when the time is right, and it will be wonderful and memorable. Consider the issue a small stepping stone to your beautiful proposal and engagement.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I don’t think you ruined it! I was in a foul mood the day of my proposal and my husband still proposed.. 
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
MrsKinTX: Don’t feel bad. I can’t remember either. I think it was Mid-May??. I wanted to do one of those cute signs for our wedding with Day We Met (we knew that one), First Date (Valentine’s Day), Got Engaged (neither one of us had a clue!)…so that DIY got thrown out the window. LOL.
I would tell him that whatever day he chose to ask is going to make it a special day. The dates of your past relationship are in past, let them lie in the past, and enjoy the new dates to come with your Fiance.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
Don’t kick yourself too much, t’s understandable that you didn’t want to be asked on the same day of your previous wedding. Your SO will ask when he thinks it’s right to ask and I think you won’t mind either way at that point! You are getting engaged to your SO and beginning a new journey together while the past isn’t erased, the past is just that- the past! You’re SO and you are moving forward into the future.
Also I am kicking myself for also trying to control the date of my soon to be engagement. I have been trying to hint at not asking on a certain date too… but I am trying to let it just happen when it is meant ot happen.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
Mrs.sinish: your SO has a very good point!!! If he does propose on that day, just remember that its still going to be a really sweet moment and you will have created a new memory of 4-19!
Post # 12
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Worker bee
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! You all make great points, we have a wonderful future ahead of us and this is just the beginning of a long journey. A day is just a day! I hope I didn’t offend him by even mentioning that date! But like you all said, I am overthinking it and it’s gonna happen!! Yay! Can’t wait to post an update and pics of the ring:)
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
ali0118: I got in a fight with my husband (then boyfriend) at dinner before he proposed. I just knew/had a strong suspicion that he was proposing at dinner that night. When we sat down to eat, he pulled out a coupon for Buy on get one free dinner and I was so embarrassed, I told him to put the coupon away. I didn’t want him using a coupon the night he was proposing…it was supposed to be special!!! My husband called ahead and made arrangements for the waiter to put a bottle of champagne on ice next to the table. when I saw the champagne, I freaked out even more! I wanted dinner to be perfect so GET RID OF THAT COUPON! lol, it’s funny now but we were both so mad…that poor waiter never got to pop the champagne open for us.
fortunately, I didn’t ruin everything. After dinner, we went for a walk around a beautiful lake and he got down on his knee and it was perfect.
Post # 14
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Worker bee
MrsKinTX: Isnt is crazy how it just happens even in the craziest of situations?! Thanks, really gives me hope that I didn’t ruin it!!
Post # 15
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Worker bee
Thank you for sharing your stories! I love hearing them 🙂