(Closed) Ruined the proposal???!! :-(

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I understand his sentiment on trying to make that day better in your memory but I agree that it would be really awkward to propose on that day and I wouldn’t want my SO to do that.

Could you talk to someone in your family and request that the picnic be moved again? 

You’ll get your proposal! Don’t worry too much, and I kind of know how you feel in a way, since my SO has had my ring at his house for about six weeks now, and I’m going nuts, too…

Post # 4
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Honey bee

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Mrs.sinish:  I told my Fiance I didn’t want him to propose on valentines day becase it was the day I got married to my now ex husband in 2009. He said the same thing your SO said: “it will give you reason to love that day again.” what did he do? He proposed on Valentine’s Day lol. If he wants to do it, he’s gonna do it. And trust me, you won’t care that it was you and your ex’s anniversary. In fact, it won’t even cross your mind. good luck! 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Aww you didn’t ruin it, he is still going to propose. I can totally understand you wanting that day to not be the day since it’s your old anniversary, and I’m sure your fiancée understands too. 

Honestly though…I dont remember when DH proposed. Does that make me a bad wife?!? in my defense, it was pre-social media so it’s not like I have Timehop reminding me every year. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Stop overthinking it. It will happen when the time is right, and it will be wonderful and memorable. Consider the issue a small stepping stone to your beautiful proposal and engagement. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think you ruined it! I was in a foul mood the day of my proposal and my husband still proposed.. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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MrsKinTX:  Don’t feel bad. I can’t remember either. I think it was Mid-May??. I wanted to do one of those cute signs for our wedding with Day We Met (we knew that one), First Date (Valentine’s Day), Got Engaged (neither one of us had a clue!)…so that DIY got thrown out the window. LOL.

I would tell him that whatever day he chose to ask is going to make it a special day. The dates of your past relationship are in past, let them lie in the past, and enjoy the new dates to come with your Fiance.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Don’t kick yourself too much, t’s understandable that you didn’t want to be asked on the same day of your previous wedding. Your SO will ask when he thinks it’s right to ask and I think you won’t mind either way at that point! You are getting engaged to your SO and beginning a new journey together while the past isn’t erased, the past is just that- the past! You’re SO and you are moving forward into the future. 

Also I am kicking myself for also trying to control the date of my soon to be engagement. I have been trying to hint at not asking on a certain date too… but I am trying to let it just happen when it is meant ot happen. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Mrs.sinish:  your SO has a very good point!!! If he does propose on that day, just remember that its still going to be a really sweet moment and you will have created a new memory of 4-19!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

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ali0118:  I got in a fight with my husband (then boyfriend) at dinner before he proposed. I just knew/had a strong suspicion that he was proposing at dinner that night. When we sat down to eat, he pulled out a coupon for Buy on get one free dinner and I was so embarrassed, I told him to put the coupon away. I didn’t want him using a coupon the night he was proposing…it was supposed to be special!!! My husband called ahead and made arrangements for the waiter to put a bottle of champagne on ice next to the table. when I saw the champagne, I freaked out even more! I wanted dinner to be perfect so GET RID OF THAT COUPON! lol, it’s funny now but we were both so mad…that poor waiter never got to pop the champagne open for us. 

fortunately, I didn’t ruin everything. After dinner, we went for a walk around a beautiful lake and he got down on his knee and it was perfect. 

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