(Closed) Rule breakers meet here!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This may sound really lame, but I’m wearing black accessories!  GASP.  No seriously, I want to wear a black sash at the reception, and my grandma is appalled by it.  


Post # 4
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had donuts instead of cake.

Our moms catered the reception.

I wore sneakers.

Our ceremony music was hodge podge.  Moms walked in to Pachelbel’s Canon, bridesmaids walked into Everything by Michael Buble, I walked in to Joy by Apollo 100 and the recessional was Fishin in the Dark by Nitty Gritty Dirt Band.

Post # 5
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

-We didnt want to do a garter boquet toss either, but we did anyways and mixed it up by placing lottery and scratch tickets to the items and then threw them to ALL the ladies and ALL the men (so the singles didnt have to be singled out) so that EVERYONE could try and “get lucky” that night

– we did a first look

– we did cupcakes

– we did the reception right after the ceremony

– our favours were candy from the candy buffet

– I wore purple shoes,…which tech isnt a rule breaker in the wedding world, but it was a shock to my family!

Post # 6
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not having a traditional wedding party. I have a Man of Honor, we’ll have girls and guys standing on both sides. Oh and they’re uneven 5 guys 3 girls. 

Post # 7
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


Walking myself down the aisle

Having a dessert buffet, maybe will have a little cake to cut

No speeches, unless someone gets hammered and goes for it

No formal dancing set up

and last but not least (and i’m nervous to say this out loud to the hive) i’m not having a photographer–we’re having a camera bar

Post # 10
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not having bouquet/garter toss
I am Considering cupcakes
I am Giving my guests the option to RSVP online [oh horror!]
No rehearsal dinner
No father daughter dance, we will just have a family dance
I opted out of wearing an engagement ring [my friends think I’m insane]
I am wearing bright colored flats
No registry
No shower
No bachelorette

Post # 11
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am not having a garter/bouquet toss

I am wearing bright pink colored crinoline & shoes (a big shocker to my family)

Groom has no bridal party standing with him

We are doing 1st look w/ pics before the ceremony

I am walking down the aisle alone

No father/daughter  groom/mother dance

We are having a candy buffet for favors

I will be walking down the aisel to Someday by Rob Thomas

We are having a sand ceremony (not sure if this is a tradition or not)

and 2 of my tattoos will be showing (not sure most of my family knows about them)



Post # 12
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

  • No bouquet/garter toss
  • No special dances
  • We’re doing a “first look”
  • No bridesmaids or groomsmen only a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man
  • NO KIDS except my own and the Flower Girl
  • Writing our ceremony (Right there with ya Miss Tattoo!)
  • My 14 year old son is walking me down the aisle and yes my father is still very much alive and we have a great relationship
  • Last but not least we are getting legally married this month and we are having a full wedding and not a vow renewal in April.

I fully intend to buck even more tradition before the wedding gets here.

Post # 13
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Violet Violet: I did that too! At first my mom thought I was nuts but after the wedding she told me she loved it.

Post # 14
110 posts
Blushing bee

We’re doing cupcakes too!  I don’t like cake but I love the way cupcakes look.  My mom thinks we’re breaking the rules because we’re not opening gifts at the wedding.  She thinks it’s rude to open them later because people want to see you open them and be thanked in person.  As if!  I would be so bored if I went to a wedding and had to watch people open gifts.

Post # 15
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wore bright pink shoes, which even on the day of the wedding my step-mother was making remarks about.

My dad walked me down the aisle, hugged me, shook hubs hand and that was it.  No I give this woman stuff.  I’m not property and have been on my own for a while.

Our ceremony music was all by Yurma.  You tube him he’s awesome!

My hubs and I wrote the whole ceremony.  No prayers or hymns.  And there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s beautiful for the right people – it just wasn’t for us.  But most people at the wedding are Southern Baptists and were in shock.

We had a 5pm ceremony, dinner was served buffet style (normal where I’m at) at 6:30pm…and it was breakfast food.  Waffles, eggs, bacon, omlets, nom nom nom.

Our cake was pink and square with spacers – my dad didn’t understand.  He thought it looked stupid because it wasn’t white and round.

Our colors were black and white with hints of pink, so there was a lot of black going on…I think my aunt almost fainted when she saw all the black linens.

We had tall pink gladiola center pieces for half the tables.  Apparently glads are a “funeral” flower?  I think they’re pretty!

ummm yeah…not nearly as daring as some of the ladies here…but for us it was fighting and defending tooth and nail on some of these “weird” ideas.


Post # 16
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Miss Tattoo: I have 13 tattoos and all but 3 will be showing!!! I only know a few people that my Fiance has invited so most will be a little shocked I’m sure. Including his step-father whom I’ve never met or had a conversation with. EEk! lol

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