- 10 years ago
I’m probably overreacting but I’m starting to feel like I don’t want to be a bridesmaid anymore. The bride and I aren’t close and she rushed into asking bridesmaids right after she got engaged. We live in different states and hardly talk. The bride is never nice and always passive aggressive, moody and distant. She talks badly about me behind me back to mutual friends and acts fake when I do see her. The bride is annoyed when I ask her about styles for my bridesmaid dress. The bride pretends to be flexible with the dress as along as it’s her color, her length, and her fabric of choice. Everytime I find a dress I like I’ll ask for her opinion, and of course she hates it but never gets back to me with styles of dresses she likes. I try to be supportive and ask her how the wedding planning is going or show excitement about being in the wedding but she ignores me. At this point I know nothing about the wedding except who is in the wedding party, the date and location. I’m not asking for her to make me feel special or give me extra attention, but I wouldn’t feel so bad about buying an expensive dress if she would kindly reply to my questions about dress styles or at least say hi once in a while. I’m afraid to confront her because she’s often rude, moody, and unsympathetic whenever someone has an issue or needs her advice. She has plenty of other friends that she’s nicer to and closer with, so why did she ask me if she’s going to ignore me? Sorry for ranting but what should I do? I feel like dropping out of the wedding just so I can be happy again.