- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Hi bees, just need to vent a little…
So, I am 9months away from our wedding date and we really need to start cracking down on planning. We haven’t gotten anything done other than getting invites, guest list done, venue, dress soon, and our bridal party picked out. Still looking for cateres to return my emails, and debating on whether or not I should hire a planner.
But we also have bigger issues to deal with. I am a college student and not working right now due to the fact that no one will hire me because of my lack of experience. My fiance works but doesn’t make a whole lot and he has talked about taking a test to get into working on computers so he can get a better job. I KNOW that he can pass the test and get a better job, because he knows EVERYTHING and ANYTHING about computers, but he just won’t study! He has said that he’s going to, but he hasn’t and I’m getting anxious. We are also planning on moving into our own place by September and with the job he has, I’m afraid we won’t be financially stable enough to live on out own. I mean, I know it’s possible but its going to make things a lot more tougher than I wanted. I don’t want to start off our marriage in debt or worrying about when we’re going to eat. I also don’t want to be stuck in the house all of the time because we can’t afford to ever go out. Ugh, it’s just frustating.
I didn’t want to go to college, I hadn’t planned on it until I met him and we had gotten engaged. I wanted to have kids and be a stay at home mom because that was my dream. But I knew that to make a better future for us I HAD to step up and go to school so I could get my degree. I did it for US, and didn’t focus on what I actually wanted to do. So it’s frustrating that he won’t step up and do the same. And we are supposed to be looking into appartments as well, well he is, and he’s not doing it. I told him I will plan everything else, you plan the honeymoon since you know what to do and look for apartments since you are the one with the income. Is he doing this? no. GRRRRR!
I don’t want to be too pushy, but it is OUR life, not just his and I’m worried. He also complains that he wants to lose weight since he’s put weight on, but he won’t work out! He got a weight set and worked out the first 2 days after buying it but stopped. This is frustrating as well because he told me to promise him that I wouldn’t let him get fat, and I’m keeping that promise. I push him to work out, and it doesn’t happen. I love him so much and love him the way he is, I’m just concerned about his health, and of course he wants to look good for the wedding and so do I, but I can’t MAKE him work out. I just don’t know what to do because he won’t listen.
I’m just afraid that I’m the only one putting any effort in, it feels that way sometimes at least. I’ve tried talking to him and he just says, “Okay, I’ll do it tomorrow, I’ll look at apartments this weekend just remind me” but even with reminding him it doesnt happen.
I know that he wants to get married and do all of these things, but how to I break his lazy streak???????????? PLEASE give me some advice on how to do so! It’s so frustrating! He really is quite lazy and always has been, he likes sitting and playing video games and doing nothing else but, but unfortunately he can’t do that anymore, he has a wife to take care of! (well, will have a wife 😛 ) Does anyone relate? Please cmfort me and say you’re in the same boat 🙁 I just don’t know what else to do. I love him with all of my heart and want to marry him, but I also want to know that we’ll be stable. How can I get him off of his butt? haha