Post # 1
I’ve just signed up here as I’m getting married in about 6 weeks, am having the final meeting with the venue soon and we’re still clueless about what to do in some respects and I’m looking for some advice!
A bit about us/the wedding/why I’m unprepared
-I’ve only ever been to one wedding before and it was a long time ago, so i don’t really know how everything is supposed to work
-I’ve moved overseas so my “best ladies” (as we’re having his two best men and my two best ladies) as well as my family live on the other side of the Atlantic, so I’ve been more on my own with this than I was really comfortable.
-We’re very non-traditional… we have a dark cave-like venue with colored lights and candles, my dress is a dark red with gold and not really weddingy at all, and I refuse to walk down the aisle as I’ve seen done in movies. We’re trying to come up with entirely non-traidional vows that are also short and sweet.
I am entirely terrified of walking down the aisle, and was really looking for alternative ideas. I am terrified and hate attention, but will walk down the aisle with my fiance. Something I feel that makes walking down the aisle awkward is that its going to be a very short aisle – its a small room to start with, and there will only be 35 or so people at the ceremony. There are only 6 of us in total we had been imagining would be going down the aisle and I can’t imagine a way for it not to look silly when at walking a regular pace you would get to the front of the room (and onto the stage) in about 10 seconds. I had one idea of all of us doing a particular silly dance in a single file line to an energetic Louis Prima song, but my fiance felt it was just a little bit too silly – though he’s down with silly. The thing is, we haven’t come up with any other ideas. Not even music.
I’ve always been a fan of being silly and crazy and that drawing attention, but I don’t like being watched when people are expecting something in particular, especially when I often attempt to dodge tradition at all costs.
Looking for any ideas at all, thanks a ton in advance!
Post # 3
Your wedding sounds beautiful. It can be overwhelming and a bit terrifying to think about walking down the aiste, I think having your fiance with you will help you feel less nervous.
I don’t have any suggestions b/c I’m in the same boat!
Post # 4
I don’t think there is anything wrong with a short walk. Maybe have a somewhat more popular song playing and when it gets to a significant time in the song, that can be when you walk. I’m not sure if I’m saying that right.
Post # 5
Oh my gosh, are you getting married at the Caves?? If so, I’m wicked jealous 🙂 I live in Glasgow now (but I’m also from across the Atlantic – are you a US transplant here too??) and when I dreamed of getting married over here, that was one of my favourites. We ended up getting married in Texas so my grandparents could attend, but we eschewed most wedding traditions too, including the torturous aisle-walk!
Here’s how we organized the whole shebang:
Because we loved the symbolism of being surrounded by friends and family, we arranged all of the chairs in a semi-circle (there’s another section out of frame on the right, to make a half-moon type shape):
Then, we all walked into the middle of the circle from what would be the bottom right of that picture, if that makes sense? It was all of a ten-step walk:
The bridal party walked out of that door over on the right first, down a few steps, and stood on either side of our little walkway. Then my dad and I walked out and met my then-fiance at the bottom of the stairs; together, then-fiance and I walked into the middle and our bridal party fell in to “close the circle,” so to speak. It was short and sweet, and not at all silly. It was a million times easier than walking down a big long aisle with everyone staring at me!
I don’t know exactly how you’re planning to set up the ceremony, but if you don’t want to walk down an aisle then don’t! Do what’s special and meaningful to you 🙂
And if you’re working on vows, we wrote our ceremony and vows borrowing heavily from:
(Ceremony Readings) http://www.indiebride.com/kvetch/index.php?t=msg&th=2271&start=0&S=4c4f465bc51402dc5dc4f89b55c54ec1
Hope that helps somewhat! I’m psyched to hear about your wedding and live vicariously 🙂
Post # 6
My second photo went away 🙁 Take two:
Post # 7
Heh, yup I am a US Transplant, and we are getting married at the caves – well, the smaller venue within it.
Those links were quite helpful, and I do like some sort of circle-y idea, I will have to ask them if that is possible because there isn’t a whole lot of room and we might still have to be on the stage because of the lighting.
And the idea of letting a song play out some and then come out is also something I hadn’t really considered.
So thanks everyone!