- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I am an emotional mess right now.
The wedding is 95 days away and I am totally panicking.
I know that’s more than 3 months, but to me that’s “last minute.”
I feel like there is SO MUCH left to do and SO MUCH to pay for.
My fiance and I just bought a house and moved in about a month and a half ago, so money is really tight. We have no problems paying the bills, but the wedding stuff is getting pushed back further and further.
My parents are already paying for the food and alcohol, and they gave us a $1500 gift that will pay off our photographer, cake, and DJ.
But we still need so much stuff – invitations, decorations, my alterations and jewelery, my bridesmaid gifts, favors, etc, etc.
I have been wanting to order my invitations for nearly a month but I just can’t make it happen financially.
We’ve already put a few things on a credit card, which is something we did NOT want to do.
We are normally really good with our money and budgeting but I feel like we underestimated how much “last minute” wedding stuff we’d need, and adding the house to the mix just makes things feel totally impossible.
I feel really stupid, stressed, and naive. And I feel like some of this is my fault because i unexpectedly lost my job last year and was unemployed for 3 months, which set us back on the “payment” schedule i set up for us for all the wedding vendors.
Again, this is just so out of our realm. We normally have plenty of money to spare – we aren’t wealthy by any means but …. we normally handle things better than this.
And we are a doing a budget wedding, so nothing is outrageous, but it all adds up — tulle, paper, candles, postage ….UGH!! I am FREAKING OUT.
And I feel like this is never going to get done because I need money to do it but …. we just don’t have it.
I don’t know what to do.
Everyone (family, bridesmaids, even my fiance) keeps telling me to calm down and take one thing at a time but I can’t relax.
I have made list after list after list and tried to break everything down by paycheck. I lay in bed at night trying to thing of ways to solve things and pay for stuff. As soon as I open my eyes in the morning, my mind is racing with a “to do” list and “to pay for” schedule.
I am so over emotional – one minute I am terrified and freaking out and so stressed I am crying and having a panic attack.
The next minute I am so happy and excited I’m crying happy tears.
I know I’m driving everyone around me crazy but I just feel SO far behind and like these things will never get done/paid for.
I have awesome bridesmaids and awesome family members, but they can only do so much. And I certainly don’t expect them to pay for this stuff.
Has anyone else dealt with this before?
How am I supposed to stay sane over these next 3 months?
I seriously feel like I’m going to end up in a psych ward!!!