(Closed) Rushing? What do you think?

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 16
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Do what you feel is right! I am 21, FH is 22 and we have been dating since my junior year in HS. A lot of people think we are too young to be getting married (I graduate April 30, wedding Nov 19). And then I tell them what I think– “We are luckier than a lot of people that we found each other in life when we did. It just means we have longer time to spend together.” Half the time people find a problem with something just for the sake of making an issue, and the other time it’s because they are jerks. Seriously, do what YOU want and is right for YOUR children. People will adapt. GL!

Post # 18
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Does your Boyfriend or Best Friend live with you and your children? If so, I don’t think it would be rushing to get married a little over a year from now.

If not, do you plan on moving in together before the wedding or after?

Post # 19
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4886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do what’s right for your kids, then what’s right for you 🙂  Do THEY know this man very well or do they only have about 3 months of experience with him? If your kids need some time to get to know their future step-dad, do it for them.  If this truly is the man you want to be with forever, and it sounds like it is, then there’s plenty of time.  I know that you want forever to start ASAP, but you have your kids to think about too. 

Make sure that he also gets used to the kids, because that’s a huge adjustment for anyone, regardless of age/current kids/anything else.  Give everyone some more time to adjust, get to know each other, become friends, hang out, you name it, THEN consider tying the knot.   Good luck to you!!!!!

Post # 21
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1577 posts
Bumble bee

You two seem to know each other well, and of course you plan on actually marrying at the 1.5 year mark so that gives you time to make sure, although I think you should be 100% sure before you say yes rather than say yes to getting engaged and seeing how things play out.

My brother and his wife got engaged after only 3 months and married at 5 months. She was from Laos and had been divorced from a huge jerk within the past year and had it in her head she was going to move back to Laos, but their coworkers set my brother up with her and so he knew she wanted to settle down and get married and not have to date for a long time – he had just gotten out of a close relationship with a girlfriend who had a baby from a previous boyfriend – so they both had family making on the mind and didn’t want to waste time. They were married in March and had their baby October of the same year! When you know what you want and are honest about communicating it to each other, I think it can work out great, even if it does seem rushed. Just make sure it is what you want! 🙂

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