(Closed) Russian Traditions / Child dressed as bride?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

That is not something I’ve heard of. I hope someone on WB is Russian or is familiar with their customs because now I am really curious!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well, I am russian and have been to 2 weddings back in Ukraine, and just got married to a russian man in the US. I have never seen little girls dressing up like a bride at any of the weddings I’ve been to, neither I heard of this being any kind of tradition, ever. This is just too weird. Though at my own wedding the Mother-In-Law dressed up in a white lacy dress, but that’s a different story 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know where the tradition came from, but it comes down to this. The “mini bride” was to distract demons (or was it pixies…) from the actual bride on her wedding day. People believed that the bride would look so beautiful that the demons (or pixies) would try to steal her away or cause mischeif for her. So the mini bride was dressed like her as a distraction. The demons would go after the child instead. It’s kind of fucked up.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Miss Tattoo:

Lol, it is. I didn’t know about that.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am Russian and I have never heard of a guest dressing up like that. Thats really weird. I know probably 20 years ago the little flower girl would sometimes wear a veil but not just a plain ol’ guest 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

OK the replies about the child as demon bait are making me seriously crack up

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m Russian and have been to many Russian weddings in Russia and here in the US and I’ve never heard of this or seen it.  I agree, that maybe the little girl was just excited.

Russian people have way less etiquette rules than Americans.  So no one would ever think twice to let their child do that and no one would ever be offended by that sort of thing.  Even adult women would wear white to a wedding without giving it a second thought and the bride would not be offended because there was no malicious thought behind it.

Russian culture is more about making everyone feel welcome and general hospitality than about rules of etiquette. So pretty much whatever the guest want, goes.  case and point, with russian invitations, the guest write in how many guests they are bringing with them.  My mom FREAKED OUT when she saw that I wrote in the number for how many seats we had reserved for each guest.  She thought it was SO rude.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

That’s really interesting. I wonder if the flower girl developed from the jr. bride. Personally, my flower girls are going to look like cute little girls in white dresses. There are way too many flower girl dress styles that ick me out.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Meowkers:

I wouldn’t agree that guests can wear whatever to the wedding. It is a general common sense not to wear white to the wedding, unless you are the bride. At least I was thrown off by my MIL’s appearance at our house on the wedding day, wearing white lacy dress. It is not something that goes unnoticed.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@melodicsighs1:

All I can say, that Russia is really big, with many different nations, communities, traditions and even languages. It might be that in some places it is still very popular, and in other it never was.

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