(Closed) RVSP – by mail, email or online?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What RSVP format are you using -- snail mail, website, email?

    The ol'fashioned way with an RSVP card, stamped envelope and return address

    Tell them to RSVP on our wedding website

    Send an email

    A combination of all of them

  • Post # 3
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m doing email. I realise that most bees will think it’s tacky, but frankly I don’t think it’s any tackier than a wedding website. Plus, we have guests coming from all over the world so that trying to find the appropriate postage to include in each invitation would end up being a nightmare.

    Post # 4
    38 posts
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We’re doing mail RSVPs for our parents friends and our family and online RSVPs for our friends (through google forms – not the prettiest, but very easy).  All of our friends have commented on how this is so much better.

    Post # 5
    1692 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well, fill-in-the-blanks response forms aren’t all that old-fashioned and elegant either. I know the argument is that they are justified because most people don’t know how to write a proper response, but you only need to read this board to know that people can’t figure out how to use the r.s.v.p. cards either. Frankly, good aesthetic taste is based on the principle that “form follows function”, and as long as you get a clear response, the function of responding has been served. Most people DO know how to use email and telephone, so if you aren’t going to be a stickler for the correct hand-written note anyway, why not use the format most familiar to your guests?

    I would still send a proper hand-written note to you through the mail, but I’m assuming you would be able to cope with that.

    Post # 6
    44 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    All our guests were local and we delivered each invitation by hand. To keep our costs low we did not include envelopes for RSVPs. On the back of the RSVPs we printed the ways people could reply. They could drop off their RSVPs, call the phone numbers provided or email the email adress given below. A lot of RSVPs have come in through email and people have been commenting on how convenient and what a great idea it was.

    I think it really depends on your situation and your preferences of what is proper etiquette and what is not.

    Post # 7
    533 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We are also doing e-mail RSVP. Over half our guests live 4000 miles away and we don’t have that much faith in the postal system.  Also it lets us follow up with guests regarding food allergies and any questions they have.

    Post # 8
    5571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We sent out our invitations with the old fashioned RSVP cards, stamped envelopes and return addresses! I’m really glad we did because I LOVE getting mail 🙂

    Post # 9
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    Just told fashinoned mail for us. My mom would cringe if they sent an e-mail (she’s traditional and I gave her the job of invitations). I also didn’t want to open up RSVP on my website because a lot of people blindly will RSVP and later decide not to come… at least that’s what my friends experienced at their weddings using technology instead of snail mail.

    Post # 10
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I give the older generation reply cards with stamps.  For friends and family that I talk to or email, I did’nt include a stamp.  I gave them my home telephone number, my wedding website and my email address.

    Results…. only one person used my wedding website.  I had to call a few who didn’t respond.  But everyone else mailed their RSVP card back.  I felt bad that I didn’t pay for their stamp.  I thought people would have emailed or texted me instead of using a stamp.  Ooops.

    Post # 11
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m doing online rsvp, I coded it in a way that was super persnal too, which a greeting to each guest and also a question about music. If anyone wants to see i can send them my website.


    I’m really looking forward to seeing my inbox blow up with replies! 😀

    Post # 12
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    All the above, plus FB.  Yes, it’s not quite proper and many people don’t reply to RSVP’s on FB, but most of our friends’ would and it’s a great reminder for many of them.  🙂  

    But we’re still sending out actual RSVP’s (and hopefully will get some funny replies, lol) with the invites and our blog/website will have an online RSVP form.  

    Post # 13
    39 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011

    What we’re doing is having the RSVP on the website, but on the invite we also have the option of them calling us as well (for those without internet capability).

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