(Closed) ?s re: boudoir pics and crazy to have male photog?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Does gender matter to you when choose a Boudoir Photographer?
    Either Male or Female is fine with me - a professional is a professional. : (37 votes)
    51 %
    I'd only work with a Female Photographer : (32 votes)
    44 %
    Neither one! : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I haven’t decided whether or not I will do them, but I will say that I know my fiance would be upset if I had a male photographer. Just a thought.

    Post # 4
    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’ve been planning on doing these. I’m probably going to have a female photographer, only because I already love her and know they will be great. However, for me (and this is just me) I don’t think I would feel more comfortable either way. If you have a professional photographer, and plenty of confidence (or just lack of caring) I think you can go with a male and have it be perfectly fine.

    I would ask your fiance if he would mind though.

    Post # 5
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I have to second that..I am not planning on doing this for the wedding but asked my Fiance about doing it for a future gift. He specifically said “not with a male photographer”. 

    I have to respect his take on that. 


    Post # 7
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’d say if you’re going to have a male photog, arrange for a woman to be in the room with you at all times, whether it’s a friend you bring, or his female assistant. Explain very clearly to him that while you trust him, you’re more comfortable that way – he should respect that. I’d say if you’re not getting creepy vibes from him, it shouldn’t be a problem. It’s art, he’s an artist, and it’s not like you’re doing a full porn shoot.

    Post # 9
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you like your photographer, stick with him. If he’s not creepy, no prob. Bring a friend for the help–you’ll want someone to adjust the lace on your panties or fix your bra and i’d rather have my friend do that. Things just don’t lie right when you’re posing.

    A professional is a professional. He’s not going to get all excited photographing you. It’s his job to look at you subjectively through the lens.

    I also have a male gynecologist, lol. So uh, i kinda take the stand that “a job is a job” and if he’s a professional, he’s a professional in my book. Men see me in skimpy bikinis on the beach anyways, whatever.

    Post # 10
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Maybe make sure your SO doesn’t mind… I know mine definatly would!

    Post # 11
    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think it would matter so much to me – but Fiance would flip out if he found it it was a male photog – and that’s why I would go with a female.

    Post # 13
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I may have a weird point of view, but I think it might be easier with a male photog. But then again I flirt with everyone male or female, babies or the eldery.

    He would know what guys would like and have a different perspective on things that a woman might not think about.

    Also, on the Fiance thoughts. I would just ask him if he would have a problem with a male photographer doing your wedding pictures (mention the getting ready part, usually involving undergarments and getting into the dress and etc) if he does I would say no to the boudoire photog.

    Another thought was have a friend of your do a poll of like your guy friends (in a sneaky – i’m thinking of doing this for my man type of way)

    That way your guy will just be one of the polls and it’s not coming from you.


    Post # 14
    2394 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I know this varies from person to person, but I only felt comfortable with a female photographer.  It took me a good while until I opened up and started coming out of my shell, so to speak.  I also think it depends on the photographer.  There was one place I so wanted to go to, but couldn’t afford their prices.  They were awesome and it seemed like I would have enjoyed it a lot more.  The photographer I had almost seemed too……proper is the word that comes to mind.  And when I’m trying to feel/look sexy, “proper” is the last thing I want to feel. lol  But, over all it was a good experience and I’m so glad I did it.  Now I’m just dying to get the actual pics and then will be dying even more to give them to the Fiance on our wedding night!

    Post # 15
    4567 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Personally I don’t have any moral dilemmas with working with a male photographer. He’s there to do a job and that’s it. As long as he’s professional, it’s whatever. That being said, I wouldn’t feel comfortable about it and I know my Fiance wouldn’t be okay with it either.

    Post # 16
    1490 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    It’s totally up to you and I think when your Fiance sees the photos, he won’t be thinking about who took them! I did have an idea to suss him out though: lingerie catalog or magazine ad. Flip through it in front of him and muse aloud, “I wonder if the model’s husband minds that she poses in front of a male photographer.” 

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