Post # 1
I don’t want to start the STD debate all over again, but I had my first odd experience tonight about Save the Date. We are getting married on a Friday night, so I decided that it would be best to mail out S-T-D’s so people can plan for that. Tonight I called my Future Mother-In-Law and ran the guest list by her – and she did not at all grasp why I would be mailing anything out this early.
I haven’t already made mine, but I still plan to send them out. She suggested not mailing them to all of the extended family in case we don’t end up invitating everyone (good call and I agreed).
However, it left me wondering if these are going to be totally worthless? As a guest, would you appreciate getting a heads up on a Friday early evening wedding?
Post # 3
I think they’re very helpful for out of town guests, especially in your case since the wedding is on a Friday. I think they’re pretty common these days, even for people not in the midst of wedding planning or wedding blog land 🙂
Post # 4
I am totally doing them for a few reasons…..there are lots of people from out of town, and its on a tuesday! I couldn’t turn down 4k worth of free stuff for our wedding, when our budget is 3k, so yea, i’m good with a tuesday!
Post # 5
im with owlbride. i think that std are important and it let announce your wedding early for people to prepare for the occasion or for out of town guest
Post # 6
I agree with owlbride, they are good for out of town/state guest, but they can also be an unnecessary expense, it’s all up to you though.
Post # 7
I would definitely appreciate a heads up and always like getting an STD. I feel like they are especially important for out of town guests and/or weddings that aren’t on a Saturday or are on a holiday.
I think since your wedding is on a Friday, an STD will allow the guests that you DEFINITELY want to be there ( I agree about not sending them to people you may not end up inviting) to make arrangements like, taking off work,etc.
Do you have many out of town guests?
Post # 8
We have many out of town guests. Some of them are already checking flight prices and hotels so obvioulsy they appreciated the advance notice.
Post # 9
I don’t have that many out of town guests, but so far the comments I have gotten on the Friday night wedding have been less than supportive. I’m also concerned that people will hear us say our wedding date but simply assume it is a Saturday and realize last minute that they will need to make work arrangements on short(er) notice.
After her comment, I just wondered if this was another wedding blog trend that no one else is going to notice. I get the idea that it is worth it.
Post # 10
Your STD can just say the date but your invitation should say Friday, October 22, 2010 so there is no confusion.
Also? STD’s don’t have to be expensive. You can send postcard save the dates for no more than $50.
Post # 11
My S-T-D are designed and ready to begin assembly. Super pretty and they were not very expensive. I’m not worried about the cost, more the comment that my Future Mother-In-Law made. FWIW my Fiance just said he thinks we should send them for sure.
Anyone wanna see a photo?
Post # 12
I don’t think Save-The-Date Cards are a trend. Even before I got into wedding blog land I knew about them and received them for every wedding. This coming summer I have 4 weddings. I received Save-The-Date Cards for all of them. None of them are out of town for me. And it’s a good thing that those Save-The-Date Cards alerted me to the wedding early because believe it or not I’ve already had to turn down other events that coincided with the weddings, (concerts, graduations, etc).
Post # 14
I, personally, love the whole idea of STD’s. But I get where you’re coming from with the Future Mother-In-Law, mine told me to not do them at all because they’re an unnecessary expense (because it’s apparently HER wedding, gah!). But, realistically, they don’t have to be expensive. And they’re not only great for Out of Town guests, but for those who are busy or who might need that extra reminder (that would be me).
Post # 15
I think with the Friday night wedding, you need to notify people in advance because they might have work or other conflicts to deal with. It is the same as having out of town guests who have to plan in advance to travel to the wedding.
Post # 16
Okay – so glad you guys agree about notification of a Friday night being important! That was the entire reason I felt we should send them. So here they are – I’m proud! The bird is heat embossed in a metallic purple, which doesn’t translate well in the photo…