(Closed) Sad about being showerless

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t have a shower or bachelorette party either.  Sort of made me sad but oh well.

Post # 5
640 posts
Busy bee

I’m not having one either =( It bums me out, but I live out of state from all of my friends & family so that makes it hard. Only 3 things have been purchased from our registry so I wonder if we are going to get gifts…

Post # 6
380 posts
Helper bee

Hey fellow bug (and others).  I’m not sure if anyone’s going to throw me one either.  It doesn’t bother me a ton right now… but I’m sure it will start to bother me more later, even after the wedding!  I was just thinking about how that’s the crappy part about having a bridal party with unmarried girls (ie. they might not know how things are done, how you want a little support during the pre-wedding time, or how little things can make the whole wedding process special).

Post # 7
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Don’t feel too bad! I wouldn’t have had a shower but my co-workers threw me one at work. I don’t have tons of friends to do that kind of stuff for me so I really expected to not get one at all. It was nice that my co-workers came through.

Maybe someone you know will end up throwing you a surprise shower? Or maybe they think that you wouldn’t really be into it, since you said you’re not very bride-y (even though I don’t really know what you meant lol). I hope you get one though. It’s nice to feel noticed & pampered a little!

Post # 8
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m also another one who isn’t getting a shower.  It’s just not part of the wedding tradition over here along with registries (really bummed…I’d have loved some proper china and crystal!), brides maids, garter toss/boquet toss, etc, etc.

On the flip side, I don’t have to adhere to certain etiquette that’s standard in the US like stating that I want cash gifts.  That one is a relief!

Post # 9
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m having a shower – but 4 months after I get married.  I’m getting married in the country I am living in first and then going to my hometown for my Canadian ceremony.  Since nobody has showers here, I have to wait until I get home to have my shower – and then I will only be able to bring a very limited amount of gifts back to Korea on the plane..so it will be a very different kind of shower. 


Post # 10
2640 posts
Sugar bee

It makes me a little sad for you all. 

@ Katiebug, can you mention something to your BMs or mom? 

Post # 11
673 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe they just forgot. My maid of honor keeps talking about the bachelorette party- I don’t know if I’ll get a shower. Maybe casually mention it around someone and see what they say.

I’m personally looking more forward to my bachelorette party than a shower.

Post # 12
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not sure if I’m getting a shower either!  It’s somehow nice to hear other ladies woes as well.  Everyone is spread out all over the country so they may not be time the day before the wedding.  Maid/Matron of Honor could be planning it for 2 days before but not everyone will be in town yet :/.  It doesn’t hurt to mention something and maybe someone will offer, they might not know you’re interested!

Post # 13
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a couples shower but I really wanted one with just my girlfriends. No bachelorette party either… I’m the first one in my close friend group to get married and we’re not having a wedding party but I thought someone would want to.

Post # 14
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sorry you’re not having a shower. Mine is going to be very small, just 12 people, because our families lives in other cities and states. Personally, I hate being the center of attention so I don’t mind that much.

Post # 15
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am in the same boat as most of you girls – for now. I live out of the state and most of my family and friends are in another. My sister isn’t married and doesn’t really know what happens for a bride before the ceremony. I gave her a Maid/Matron of Honor guidebook and told her I would like a bridal party, but so far she hasn’t put anything in concrete – and the wedding is in two months! FI’s family is in another state as well, so as far as having the people who are most likely to be at a bridal/bachelorette party, they are scattered everywhere. 

If I don’t have one- I am okay with it (a little!). 

Post # 16
1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Have you thought about you and your Fiance throwing yall own?

my mom has offered to throw mine but most likely she will just put her name on the invitation and I will take care of the rest.

you should have one!

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