Post # 1
We are already married, it’s just our ceremony that’s been canceled. Basically we got married at the JOP and were going to have a ceremony later this year, but now it’s impossible to have our ceremony when we originally planned. In fact, we can’t even predict when or where or even if we can have it at all, so we can’t even reschedule 🙁 I’m a little upset about it, I was really looking forward to it, taking pictures, and seeing family. I plan on keeping my dress and veil because at the very least maybe my husband and I can go somewhere just us two for vows. But I have no idea what to do with everything else. I got some of my money back for my cake. I didn’t order any food yet or book a photographer or officiant, so that’s not a problem. However I got all the small things (favors, fake flowers, unity sand, guest book, ties for the guys, cake cutting set, all that stuff). I don’t know if I should keep it, or give it away, or sell it or what. I ordered most of it back in March – May, so returning it isn’t really an option. Maybe I’ll keep the toasting glasses and cake set and just have a nice anniversary cake for us and use it on that. I guess this is more of a vent than asking for advice. I just feel kind of down and unsure of what to do with my stuff. I don’t even know if we will be able to have a ceremony at all with family/friends. It’s just taking up room and when I see it I get sad, but I don’t want to give it all away/sell it only to be able to have a ceremony later and have to buy it all again.
Post # 2
if you plan to have a ceremony some time then I would keep it and save on having to rebuy it again
Post # 3
Save it and, if it takes too long to have your ceremony, do a “vow renewal” for an anniversary celebration.
Post # 4
Vent away. That would be disappointing. I’m sorry 🙁 If it keeps making you sad in a couple weeks, I think you should try to sell it (craigslist, tradesy). Maybe keep a memento or two to go with that great anniversary idea, but don’t let disappointment get you down. You got married and can make some great memories with your husband even if you have had to change your plan. Or maybe someone else could “store” it for you for a little while so you don’t have to see it, but you don’t have to give it all up yet either.
Post # 5
That’s probably a good idea. Things could change last minute, thanks.
A vow renewal is a good idea. Thanks. 🙂
Yeah it was pretty hard to take. Basically my husbands job threw us a really unexpected curve ball. I think I may ask my mom to hold onto most of it, thanks 🙂 That’s a good idea. I could take the cake stuff with us and ask her to hold the rest.
Post # 6
Oh no! Sorry, Bee. Sucks that things got cancelled but hang in there. Maybe it’ll turn around for you. If you don’t want to get rid of the stuff you’ve bought, don’t. Just pack it up in boxes for a while until you’re either ready to use it or ready to part with it. Hope things make a change for the better for you and your husband soon!
Post # 7
Thanks, we hope so too. I think we are going to pack it all and ask my parents to hold onto it for us for a little bit.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I’d pack it away and keep it for a while. If a year rolls around with no new date in sight I’d consider getting rid of some (or all) of it. Mainly because your tastes will change.