(Closed) Sad about destination wedding….

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@soulrich23:  That’s so tough! Do you think there would be any way to give up something to have a small wedding for the price you can afford? Or maybe you could have a reception at home with the 80 people you want? You should really talk to your finace about it. If even the thought of a destination wedding makes you sad, you should talk about it rather than just go along with it unhappily.

Post # 4
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Go with your heart. Its your day and if your not going to be happy then whats the point? Maybe you could have a Destination Wedding and then a reception to celebrate with the other 90% of the people you want there.

Post # 5
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m having a bit of the same issue however I want a small destination wedding.  People have been giving me a hard time because of the cost.  We are sticking to our guns and going forward with the Destination Wedding and throwing a huge party for all the people we didn’t invite a few months later.

I had the big white wedding for my 1st marriage and to me it wasn’t worth the expense or stress to repeat that again.


Good luck!

Post # 6
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry you are sad 🙁

DWs are the most fun weddings I have been to if it makes you feel any better! 🙂

As someone planning a big traditional at home wedding, I wish I was having a small Destination Wedding – the stress is crazy and I am hating this wedding as planning goes on and on.

Post # 7
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had a very small Destination Wedding….and it was perfect!  I would not have changed a thing.  Initially I was having doubts on having a Destination Wedding because of my grandparents not being able to travel, but it ended up being exactly want we both wanted.  

By The Way we got married at Secrets Wild Orchid!  

Post # 8
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO soulrich23:  first and foremost… I see you are NEW to posting on WBee… so WELCOME to “the Hive”

You said…

Help! I am a day away from signing the bottom line on a destination wedding and I do not want to.

I just want a pretty 80 person wedding, nothing at all over the top and just cannot seem to do it under $15k (soup to nuts). My fiance is elated because he wants a destination wedding and I finally just have given up and accepted. Now I cannot seem to a. get over it and b. finalize it. I have cold feet!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyone else at all have this problem?????? Oh and my mom and dad are heartbroken they cannot help and furious (mostly at themselves for not being able to help) that it is destination and I won’t have 90% of those I want there. (And I in NO way expect my parents to pay, and I have told them this). On top of that, when people bitch about it I lose it a little and get sad which is a whole other level of uncomfortable. Has anyone else had to do destination and ended up falling in love with the choice????

All I am reading in this post is sadness.

Girlfriend… this is quite obviously not the Wedding that you hoped for… dreamed of… or clearly have compromised on and are NOW happy with.


Call your Fiance, tell him you are heartbroken (Your post here, clearly shows that) and tell him you guys need to go back to the drawing board.

Honestly $ 15 K is do-able.  Maybe not fireworks and filet mignon… but certainly do-able.

I am over 50, and I’ve been to dozens of Weddings in my lifetime… not all Weddings have to be BIG Elaborate Affairs… infact some of the nicest Weddings I’ve been to have been smaller, “out of the box” events.

Even a short celebration on the Church’s Lawn with flowers, champagne and cake can be breathtaking.

Don’t run off to a Destination Wedding just because there are people pressuring you to do so.

Save your “Destination” time strictly for your Honeymoon alone with Hubby (it is clearly what he is jacked about).

And have a Wedding that is more in line with what you want (and clearly, your family, relatives etc… do as well)

Good luck… (( HUGS ))


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