- 6 years ago
So im engaged. The evening he proposed was lovely, he really made an effort. im happy to be engaged so please dont get me wrong with what im about to say.
this is not a superficial kind of vent – i dont know what happened with the ring. Hes bought me jewwllery before – inexpensive but nonetheless lovely items and i wear them all the time. He always physically goes to a jeweller and picks something he likes and thinks i would like and he ALWAYS does a great job.
Months and months ago we looked together at rings online with some well known jewellers. I didnt want anything expensive, or flashy, and i warned him off buying from ebay or amazon. I pointed out a few things i liked – little 9ct gold rings with aquamarines etc. I have very small fingers and he agreed with me something small would be perfect. Thats the last i heard of it.
Fastforward to now, my ring is a massive cubic zirconia from ebay. It does not even sit straight on the band and the prongs dont line up. The seller misrepresented it as a diamond with the title and ln the receipt however common sense would tell you for 400 dollars it is not a diamond. the relevanceof this is that he bought it thinking it was a great price for a diamond and didnt think twice about the other details to his own admission.
My boyfriend did not check the item description properly as CZ was wrtiten there underneath, did not read the email from the seller saying this was not a diamon before it shipped, left thr seller positive feedback saying “fantastic” without even opening the box when it arrived – the first time he saw it was when he gave it to me over a month later. It is out of the refund policy terms now. He even told me yesterday he doesnt like it and it looks trashy while i was wearing it. everyone i have shown it to when they ask to see it has cringed or said “oh right”. Its a bit embarassing.
It just seems to me he didnt give the ring two thoughts, he read the title, clicked “buy it now” and then gave it to me without looking at it. Its not the cost of it, its the appearance of it and the fact he didnt listen to me when i pointed things out, told him to go to a jewellers so he knew what he was buying and above all the fact that he doesnt even seem bothered about the buying process – if he had physically looked at it sooner he could have returned it and got a refund. He even said he hates it – he would have known that if hed looked at it sooner. Its so big and sticks out so much its impractical to wear.
Hes now asked me to go buy one with him but we simply cannot afford to do that without being refunded for the other one first. The seller is refusing a refund As it is out of the refund policy terms and he has put CZ in the detailed description on the item.. My boyfriend has left it with me to try and pursue it through ebay.
I dont know what im asking here really, please feel free to give me your thoughts. Ill add that iI dont have a problem with the band, it is yellow gold and hallmarked,, is there any way i can have the whole stone and setting removed one day and replaced with something else entirely? i dont know what to do. i genuinely dont understand my boyfriends trail of logic or lack of effort with this, im really quite surprised.