(Closed) sad about ering/ the buying of it

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Blue Hound Farm

I don’t know what the solution is, but my feelings would be very hurt by my SOs total lack of concern regarding something so important if I was in your shoes. I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this! 

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

9 ct? Especially on little fingers it will look huge. The unfortunate truth, typically the bigger the rock the less it looks real. How long is the engagement? it might be best to wait. You can get great rings for low prices. My first was 3 sapphires with 4 tiny diamond chips on the end for $80. Kay jewelers I think. You can find a satisfactory stand-in until you find a ring you love, then resize it to be a ring for the right hand.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

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theatrejulia:  I think she means 9ct gold.. 

You definitely should be easily able to get a new stone and head for the ring. And if you want aquamarine, it won’t be expensive. I would have been just as upset as you for sure! 

Also, can we see a pic? 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 5 months ago by TrueLove407.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

It seems unlikely to me that you are going to get a refund from the original seller. Can you relist the item on Ebay, that may help recoup some of the loss. I would stop wearing it, if you SO thinks it looks “trashy” is people ask to see it just tell them it’s being resized. Don’t be too upset over this, you SO seems a little clueless but so what, everyone makes mistakes from time to time. I’m sure he will be much more careful next time. Best of Luck Bee!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

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rumpunch:  it’s 6:30 am, been up for 26 hours. Guess my brain is too fried for this. I was totally picturing a 9ct CZ being mistaken for a diamond for $400. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

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theatrejulia:  LoL. if her man thought he got a 9ct diamond for only $400, than someone needs to slap him awake! But I had to read it twice to reAlize she meant the gold.. It’s not just you. It’s Too early for thinking!! 

Post # 9
Hostess
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

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theatrejulia:  and up 26 hours…. Girl you need to get Some sleep!! 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It sounds like if it’s real gold then you were basically paying for the setting.  If the ad stated that it was a CZ then it sounds like you’re not going to get any recourse from ebay.

Aquamaries are not that expensive so you should be able to replace the CZ with one.  I would have a jeweler check it out.  If the jeweler doesn’t think the setting is worth $400, then you might be able to file a complaint with ebay that the item was misrepresented.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

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rumpunch:  You’re not going to get a refund and unfortunately you won’t get much selling it either. What is the metal? I was not kind to another poster here who suggested her BF get a second job to be able to afford the $6000 ring she wanted. But in your case, he agrees it was a bad purchase and wants to get you something better. If he could put in 10 hours a week (5 hrs Saturday/5 hrs Sunday?) at a minimum wage side job, you’d have enough for a new ring in two months or less. I’d call this an expensive lesson for him. Or you could just be engaged without wearing a ring until he’s able to save up enough to buy something you’re both excited about. It’s not like you’re saying “ew, this is too small!” It’s perfectly understandable that you’d be uncomfortable with a huge obvious fake. If he can’t take a second job for 2 months, I’d just put the ring away and be engaged ringless.

ETA: Or you can buy a smaller, more reasonable looking CZ for 30 anywhere. It won’t last forever, but you could wear it while saving up.

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Post # 12
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Busy bee

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rumpunch:  If you can’t get a refund for it, I would probably take it to a jeweller and see if they might be willing to take the gold in partial trade for another ring. I know that the jeweller who made my engagement ring (and our wedding rings) will take unwanted gold jewellery in partial trade for a new item and they reuse the gemstones and metal from items they’ve taken in trade.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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rumpunch:  If the title of the listing said Diamond, then ebay might help you out with the buyer resolution process. I am a top rated seller on ebay and I have lots of experience with the process. Have you opened a dispute with the seller under “not as described”? Because it is misleading to put Diamond in the title. Ebay specifically says it is against their rules to do that – put somethign in the title that the item is not.

For example, before I knew this, I listed some generic packing tape as “similar to Scotch 3M” and ebay caught it and slapped my hand for doing so. I imagine with a CZ/Diamond it would a huge deal for the seller to do that! 

If you want me to take a look at the listing, could you message me or post the link to the ebay listing that he bought and I could give you my opinion on it? 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

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rumpunch:  I would be hurt too. Sorry bee 

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