(Closed) sad about ering/ the buying of it

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’d get a more realistically sized, nice quality CZ thats <$50 and then get the forever ring once enough savings have been accumulated. Sorry this has been frustrating for you.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

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lilsweetie:  Wow, lilsweetie, that was great advice!

OP, if you are unable to get a refund, then yes, you can keep the setting and have a jeweler add a new “basket” for a smaller aquamarine for a very modest price. 

Sorry you’re dealing with this! I can see how that would be upsetting!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

Buy a ring from Artemer if you like their stuff – pretty and not too expensive and real diamonds (I have no financial interest in this company but have just admired their stuff from afar).  Even if your Fiance doesn’t get the money back it will have taught him two lessons.  One is that cheaper is not necessarily better and the other is that for an engagement ring the only value for money that matters is if you really love the ring.

https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/artemer

They do nice wedding sets too.

Or keep your setting and get a loose diamond from Blue Nile or James Allen.  Choose an ideal cut, a low but beautiful colour such as K, L or M and the choose low but eye clean clarity such as S1.  You’ll still have a beautiful diamond.

 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You know, most “nice” jewelry costs $500-$1000-ish. Maybe your man only had $500-$1000, flipped out, and made a bad call. Guys can get stupid when it comes to ring shopping. 

I’d suggest buying yourself something really inexpensive/asking your Fiance to do it, like something small from Gemvara with an aquamarine (Gemvara has super pretty stuff! I have like a 100-item wishlist from there). 

Post # 21
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Worker bee
Post # 22
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Worker bee

Id fight it on ebay. Id say the item wasn’t as listed, despite being outside return time frame. See what happens. A lot of the sellers on there dont want bad reviews. He can always change his review anyways. 

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper

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rumpunch:  Glad you’re working it out, good luck finding “the one”!

Post # 24
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Busy bee

Why is it for YOU to pursue with ebay? This is his fuck up! Let him fix it!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

If you like the setting and if it’s a good setting…MAYBE you could have a real stone put in it instead? idk. that way you’re not losing gold? or you could go to a jeweler and he/she could buy the ring from you to melt down the gold and use that for something.

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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rumpunch:  I wouldn’t be impressed by that either- he should be busting his ass to make up for this instead of sleeping in and blowing off your plans and leaving you to clean up his mess. He doesn’t sound very thoughtful at all. I hope he gets his head out of his ass and you guys can work it out. If you can’t get past this he’s not the guy for you.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

There are Milestones in life that must be thought of.  Pregnancy, graaduations, engagement.  I understand men putting in massive mob flash engagements or even just a night at home.  

It could be a small ring, a massive one, any gemstone or diamond would do.  It could range from 50$ to $50k.  But the one thing all of these have is the thought.  They count the most. 

I’m sorry about this OP.  Good luck in the search for the new ring, I hope you find one that speaks to both of you.  

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