(Closed) Sad About E.Ring

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hang on, the guy offered to change it.. so why did you say no? you wouldnt be hurting his feelings, he just wants you to be happy… Guys are pretty logical sometimes, mostly if they say it, they actually mean it. Change the ring, and you will both be happy! after all, its just a ring.. his love is still there with or without the ring.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree! My guy actually pilfered one of my own rings from my jewellery box to propose with because although he was pretty sure he knew what I would like, he wanted to be sure and for us to choose it together.

This is a piece of jewellery you will wear for the rest of your life. Choosing it together won’t make it any less special — in fact, I think I love mine even more because it was something we did together and chose together, which is what marriage is all about. I really, really treasure the memory of the day we went ring shopping (we got engaged on the Wednesday and bought the ring on the Saturday) — it was a really happy, perfect day the two of us spent together.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Same thing happened to me… We’d actually picked out the ring together last fall and then he proposed with something totally different — something, um, bad. (In my defense, the center stone was completely crooked and I could FEEL it move, if I put my finger on it. Agh!) Anyhow, I felt the same way you do. Horrible! Materialistic. Bad for questioning a gift that he gave you, but my fiance was happy to change it, too. We didn’t run out immediately and change it, we waited a couple of months, but when we did, I had the idea to repurpose every bit of the original ring. (I’m not sure if you’re able to do it, in this case?) We took the diamonds that went around the band and having them made into my wedding band, we moved the original center stone to my new e-ring… I made a point of making him know how much I wanted to preserve the elements he gave me, which eased a lot of tension.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I think you should change it, after all he did suggest it.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I understand the guilt that you feel, but now that you did bother talking to him about it, you should change it. If you don’t, you’ll have to learn to be happy with your ring, because he did suggest to change it and you decided to keep it instead; therefore can’t feel bad about it because it was your choice…
But, I think that now that he knows you’re not happy with it, he will feel worse if you keep it just not to hurt his feelings.

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