Post # 1
My fiancé and I are having a much more traditional wedding than most people my age (way more traditional I ever expected)
We haven’t lived together yet.
I’m 27- I have been living on my own basically since college. My current apartment has been mine for almost 3 years. It’s tiny but I can afford it (in Queens) and it has meant a lot to me. My family life is not ideal So independence is especially valuable to me. I have lived with partners in the past but this place was always mine (and my cats’).
Last week a realtor (or broker?) came to photograph my place, as I am getting married in July and we will need to find a much bigger place to live. I hate to admit it but when she came in, my instinct was to kick her out. I love my apartment and I don’t want to say goodbye.
I look forward to and understand the commitment of marriage, but I am a very sentimental and nostalgic person. I know I have to let my apartment go and I’m obviously doing that, but am I the only one who has ever felt this way?
Post # 2
I got my own apartment after college and lived there for slightly over 3 years too- before I moved in with Darling Husband. I totally understand. I also had my own dorm room for 3 years in college that I got attached to. I think it’s totally normal.
Take some pictures of your place before you pack up, so you can look back and remember it. It will aways be special because it was your first place. Just remember that you’ll make new great memories with your husband where ever you end up in the future.
(Also besides taking pictures, I made a clay imprint of my key to my apartment. Google it, and you’ll see what I’m talking about.)
Post # 3
You are not alone! I feel that way about my place, which I bought and paid for by myself. I am very independent, and while I am looking forward to living together in our house when we marry, I am also not looking forward to selling my place and moving.
I think those feelings are natural. Be proud of what you have achieved, be proud that you have been able to be independent, but don’t let it stand in the way of your future. We always have to let some things go in order to make room for other things, like the wonderful home you and your H will make together.
Post # 4
: ) I’m glad I’m not the only one. I guess I’m also a little bit nervous because I’m not used to compromising (hence my not having a roommate).
That sounds bad- I can compromise. I’m just accustomed to not needing to in my own living space.
**Also, these key imprints on Pinterest are adorble
Post # 5
You are definitely not alone! I bought a house a few months before I met my husband. When we started talking about getting married, I was so excited, but also felt sad at the thought of selling my house (it was my choice to sell). It was a real issue for me. I thought that moving in with him and selling my house would erase the hard work I put into it, and the feeling of pride I had that I did it on my own. He was actually the one who told me exactly what izzabella said above. Leaving your apartment does not, and will not, ever take away what you’ve built for yourself. Look fondly on the time you’ve been there, but also think fondly of the memories you’ve yet to make in a new place with your fiance. It will take time, but you will adjust. Be open with your fiance about your feelings, but know that this is normal and you will be ok 🙂
Post # 6
We’re still trying to figure out where we want to move to, but one of the main things I want to make sure we have is a room that can be “mine” so I have a place to go if I need “alone time.” Sunporch, sitting room, something where I have my books, a favorite chair, a favorite rug, and a good reading lamp. I think that will help me when I start to need some “independence.”
Is your fiance someone who is also independent? That can help as he won’t want to be on top of you all the time, but can also be a challange because he, too, will have his moments where it’s hard for him to compromise and share space.
Post # 7
I can totally relate. Fiance moved into my apartment 3 years ago. It’s cheap and it’s allowed us to save for a wedding while he aggressively pays down his student loan debt. It’s a tiny apartment, but I love it. It will be a sad day when we move out :o/
Post # 8
It was so sad for me to move out of my house when we moved for my job a few years ago. I bought it as a single gal before I even met Darling Husband, and he moved in after we got engaged. You will make so many more happy new memories in your new home!
When I first moved in, I was so proud of my place. I took lots of pictures of how I’d arranged things, so those have been fun to look back on as things began to change. Maybe you can do the same.