Post # 1
Should I feel dissappointed about not having a shower? We live overseas so it’s not really feasible, adn it’s not about the gifts, I just feel like I am missing out on yet another typical wedding/bride event since I live overseas!
My mom and aunt threw us a surprise engagement party at Christmastime when we were home, and I think this was meant to be in place of a shower, but there were a lot of people missing since my bridesmaids didnt know everyone on my wedding guest list, so could not get all addresses. My Maid/Matron of Honor planned on my having a shower, but after the clean up for the engagement party and my Maid/Matron of Honor mentioned a shwoer, my mom promptly informed her I would not be having one since I live so far away… I am kind of sad.
Post # 3
I’d be sad too, but it sounds like it’s one of those things you miss out on by living far away. (I can relate – I miss out on so much living far from my family)
It’s great that you had an engagement party though – most people don’t get to have those! 🙂
I really wanted to throw one for "our side" of the family for my Future Sister-In-Law but everyone lives so spread out that it’s not possible.
Post # 4
I feel for ya. I am also away from home (same as you greencard I think – From Boston, in Australia?) and feeling the blues about missing out on pre-wedding fun. My FI’s family threw us an engagement party which was great but my family wasn’t there. Another bummer/stress is planning a destination wedding so all my choices are based on emails and websites as opposed to actually tasting anything, seeing flowers, meeting vendors. I keep putting off making decisions because I want to show things to or talk things over with my family or Maid/Matron of Honor. As a result I have nothing done for the wedding except having a venue booked. On a bright side, I am going home for a few weeks this summer so maybe I will get some fun planning stuff done then.
I think my Maid/Matron of Honor and a few people are going to have a ‘bachelorette’ night a few days before the wedding at our destination. Do you think maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor &/or friends could plan a bachelorette / shower sometime in the days surrounding the wedding? Even something small, then you could feel like you were getting a little bit of the bride-fun.
Hope this helps at all. And if you are in the Sydney area, let me know… maybe we can do something bridey together 🙂
Post # 5
aloweha, I feel your pain. I didnt get to go shopping wtih my mom, or bridesmaids, I was lucky enough to get home and meet with vendors 18 months ago on frequent fliers (although my dad had already picked the reception venue, he’s so involved).
I am having a bachelorette the week before the wedding (also the day we arrive!)
Good luck in your planning!
Post # 6
I feel your pain (I actually just started a new post about this before seeing this one). My fiance is from the midwest, I’m from the east coast, and we now live in the south. we have lots of friends spread out in different states in every region. we are pretty new to the south so we don’t have too many close friends down here – mainly coworkers and ex-classmates (I went to grad school here). With everyone so spread out, pre-wedding celebrations kinda got pushed to the side…
We didn’t have an engagement party because, well, we didn’t throw one and no one threw one for us. I was pretty unenthusiastic about the idea of a bridal shower at the beginning of the wedding planning, but to be honest none of my BMs seemed very interested in planning one for me either (they’re all spread out too…). I’m not having a bachelorette party because, again, no one has offered to throw one. His friends are throwing him a bachelor party the weekend before the wedding.
The wedding is so soon, and its just hitting me that when its over, its over. Of course, its just the beginning to a wonderful life together, but I do feel like I missed out on most of the celebrating…
Post # 7
i feel you cuz i dont think im going to be having a bridal shower not only bc its not usual for our chinese customs to have one but also bc of the the economy right now. no one really wants to spend money so i dont even want to mention it but i really do want to have one. i told my mom about it but shes like clueless about all this so in order to not have any stress im just not going to have one….its upsetting but i guess at times like these we just have to look on the bright side..u are getting married with the love of your life 🙂