- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hi, Bees! I know I don’t post here much (kind of a lurker through the Droid app) but I’m hoping you may help give me some perspective nevertheless. 🙂
Here’s the deal. We live in Washington state near his family and thought a year would be plenty of time to save/plan for a wedding in upstate New York, where my family and friends live. The past couple years knocked us on our behinds so we don’t have savings. I’m planning the budgetiest of budget weddings, but the travel expenses are what’s killing the whole thing. Neither of our new jobs offer vacation time, so if we want to take any time off we have to make sure there’s enough saved to cover our bills. Then there’s airfare, rental car, spending money, etc. All told, about $5,500 to take two weeks off for the wedding and a general vacation in my hometown, staying with my mom (romantic, right?). That doesn’t include the cost of the wedding itself.
The wedding date being nine months away now, we still have nothing done because we can’t scrape together enough to save for pretty much anything. My mom doesn’t want us to move the wedding over to the west coast (I don’t really want to move it either), but nor do we want to postpone it. I mean, we’ve lived together for six years and been a couple for the better part of 11 years, so it’s about time, you know? Plus, fiance’s grandmother is 83 years old and isn’t quite as spry as she used to be. Not sure if she could make a cross-country trip and seeing as she practically raised A for much of his childhood, it’s important to us that she be there. My brother had been a concern; with a serious neurological disorder we don’t know if he could make a long trip either, but then he recently decided to alienate our whole family and ignore us, so he might not even come to the wedding if we had it right next door to his apartment!
The NY wedding would be nice to spend time in a place and with people I’ve been homesick for, and at the prettiest time of year. And it would be a very small, simple event, no big extravagant princess party or anything. The west coast wedding would be more economical and doable in our time frame, and Grandma could definitely be there, but most of my family and friends would not.
Here I thought we had finally decided on a location and everyone was cool with it, but money is seriously getting in the way. I’d really appreciate some non-biased opinions or advice. 🙂 Thank you ever so, chickadees (and chickadudes?).