(Closed) Sad about pregnancy and not sharing this with my mom who lives in another state

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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Janaic88:  That’s great that your super close to your mom and want her to feel somewhat special/included with your pregnancy.  I don’t see anything wrong with that.  My only issue with waiting for her to arrive to have an u/s to determine gender is what if the baby doesn’t cooperate at the appt?  This has happened to a few of my girlfriends where they have to go to a few dr’s appts before the baby was finally in the right position.  My DH and I are having a gender reveal party next month but have 2 scan appts before then just in case baby doesn’t cooperate at first one.  Maybe have your dr or ultrasound tech include the gender in an envelope and do a special reveal in front of your mom?  That way you have that special moment and you can still have a gender specific shower.

Post # 18
408 posts
Helper bee

My mom is 16 hours away. So I get that. The thing is, we talk a lot and for me that IS sharing the pregnancy experience. She is coming up around my due date and she did see me xmas (we come in town every year). Oh and we do google hangout and show baby clothes and books we all bought the baby. So I mean, yeah she isn’t helping pick out the bug stuff, like the crib, but my husband and I did that. Frankly the more people weighing in on those big items the worse. She knited her a blanket and it’s all coming up with her. So, if I were you I’d see if she could come for 1 big visit and 2- Do hangouts, or skyp or send picturers a lot. 

Post # 19
408 posts
Helper bee

Also btw, my OB did a quick scan at my 17 week apt and could tell gender and told me. My husband wasn’t even there. He found on out the phone after I left and he was at work and really it was fine. He came to the 20 week as planned and teared up and all that stuff. But it’s not really something you have to SEE, it’s more about ‘IT’s a GIRL!!” information. 

Post # 20
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Janaic88:  hi there, I love my mom so much but no really a Mamas girl. But when I got pregnant with my daughter ( I lived with my in-laws when I was still pregnant) and I always feel that I missed my mom so much. So, what I did was every weekend my husband and I visited her and updated her for what is going on with my pregnancy and it really helped me a lot. If you are very far from your mom why don’t you call her everyday or every week just so that she is still a part of your pregnancy. Moms always knows best. I also know a site where it could calculate your due date. I hope this helps. 🙂

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Post # 21
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I told my mum almost right away but haven’t really done anything extraordinary regarding my pregnancy for which I need to include her or anyone else. In fact, there are times when I actually forget that I am pregnant! (That was NOT the case however, during those morning sickness months.) 

Point is, she’s your mom. She is already over joyed by the news of your baby. She’s going to be a grandma, hello!? You don’t need to do anything over the top to make her feel included. She already feels like that! So don’t beat yourself over it. If you want her to be with you during an ultrasound, then schedule one for her and you. My mum is at work during the time my ultrasounds can be scheduled. 

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