- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I have two older sisters. They are single. One is 6 years older than me and the other is 3 years younger. We aren’t as close as we used to be. We used to be really good friends… One hasn’t really gotten along with me since fiance and I have gotten engaged, etc….
I am just kind of bummed that both of my sisters will not be my bridesmaids:(….sigh. I asked them, knowing they would feel mixed feelings about it(for various reasons) and unsure about it. I was hesitant about it because I thought they might not be as supportive as a Bridesmaid or Best Man should be, especially a sister. And the fact that they are very cynical about marriage, etc. The last thing I wanted them to feel was obligation. One of them had a fit about the color(which isnt bad), but it was really deeper issues…. They also like to gossip about everything….I don’t like that.
Anyways, they both kept going back and forth about wanting to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I couldn’t get a definite answer etc. My mom had pressured me to ask them. This just caused drama it seems like. Well I asked 2 closer friends I have kept in touch with from highschool, and my fiance’s little sister to be my BMs. My Future Sister-In-Law is actually 14, so she is almost Jr Bridesmaid age, but I am just calling her a normal Bridesmaid or Best Man…same with Fiance’s little bro, hes a Jr Groomsmen age, but we’re just calling him a regular Groomsmen…he’s 11.
Anyways, my middle sister said she was interested in Bridesmaid or Best Man and I was going to let my BMs pick out their own dress styles just because of her. She insisted on picking out her own dress etc. If I had known she wasnt going to do it, I wouldve picked out one dress for all of them. I am kinda sad they all have different dresses now, just because of my sister.
Well my sister said she went to try on dresses and feels to *fat* and *big* to be one. She is larger, but not even that big. Her medication made her gain weight years ago…..She’s on the border of a size like 14 and Plus sizes. She insisted that she had to be able to try on a plus size dress, but designers dont carry large samples often. I offered her to go to Davids Bridal when she could and get a dress in a different color/style and be my Maid/Matron of Honor just so she could have a place to try on plus size dresses. (we didnt stick with DB because I didn’t like the colors there and plus my sister is in Canada right now.) Well, she now has flaked on me and said she can’t do it because of the weight issue. I think both my sisters were also just jealous that I had 3 other BMs too but I didn’t want the BMs just to be family, I needed supportive friends too! 🙁 and I only have 2!
This really disappoints me and makes me upset:( I feel weird not having my sisters in the ceremony. I want to get them corsages to show that they are related to me, but my sister said no not to do that. i want to do that anways. I feel hurt! I don’t think my relationship will ever be the same again with both sisters, especially the one who is real unsupportive about me getting married………
sorry, this is just a vent:( as Some people say, weddings bring the best and the worst out in certain families, I never realized it would happen to my OWN family:(