(Closed) Sad and scared about moving

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ok this is maybe not very good advice, but is there really any harm in you feeling what you’re feeling? You say in your post you know you’ll be ok once you’re settled into your new home, you’re confident in your relationship – so, there’s just nothing wrong with having sorrow at this life’s transition. They say when a door closes a window opens, but that doesn’t mean you don’t ever think about that door again! You may find you have an easier time by just ‘sitting with’ your feelings. Acknowledge them, tell yourself it’s fine to feel them, and that they will lessen over time as new happier experiences happen and you adjust to your new life. I only moved 40 miles to my new home with my Darling Husband and I wept and WEPT over selling my house and moving, even though it was what I wanted to happen. Give yourself the space to experience this and you will get through it better. Hugs!

Post # 4
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1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry. I just moved and I am having a really hard time. It’s hard to leave your home.

Cry it out girl!

Post # 5
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I know what you mean!!  I moved to be with Darling Husband and I was fine then.  We were getting married in 3 mos and I knew I’d see everyone really soon.   It was after the wedding that was horrendous.  I really bawled the hour ride to the airport to drop my dad off, and the whole way home.  After a few days I was fine.

I drove 14 hours to go pick my niece up for the summer, and at the end of the summer driving up to meet my family half way, I was silently crying.  I all out nasty ugly cried after we dropped her off.  I mean mascara running, snot, and I don’t know how Darling Husband deals with that.  I cried for the whole next week after she left… it was terrible.  Again, I knew I would be fine I just had to get it out.  Take the time to feel what you need to, cry the ugly cry or throw something (i like taking the dog out and chucking a ball in the yard till my arm goes numb and I have snot and tears all over).

It’s good your mom is flying out for things.  I know it feels wrong she won’t be there for everything but you should get all excited for what she will be a part of, make sure you take pics of you two.  Make sure and enjoy the time she’s there, and get a routine going.  When my dad visits we always eat a meal on the way to the airport, just a few minutes to catch up on the visit.  It’s hard, but with SKYPE it’s doable.  I’m really close with my nieces and nephews (they are close to me in age) and we all have skype on our phones so it’s easy to just see each other and that helps.  hang in there it gets better just keep focused on the excitement of being with your guy.  That had to be hard to keep leaving him too.

Post # 6
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530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

Oh sweetie, I totally understand you. I’m from a very close family and I’ll be moving with my future husband in december after the wedding, the city we’re moving in is very big and different and I get a lot of anziety for not knowing where I’m getting into. Topping it off, Fi’s job makes him travel a lot and sometimes he’s away for more than a week at a time, I have no friends where we’re moving and I think I’ll feel lonely. I have a mini panick attack thinking about it.

I understand the “it’s final” feeling, it’s frustrating to think you “won’t come back”, but as PPs said I do think it’s normal to feel this way, just make sure those around you know how you’re feeling and ask for their support, it’s a difficult transition.

((HUGS))

 

Post # 7
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530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

Oh sweetie, I totally understand you. I’m from a very close family and I’ll be moving with my future husband in december after the wedding, the city we’re moving in is very big and different and I get a lot of anziety for not knowing where I’m getting into. Topping it off, Fi’s job makes him travel a lot and sometimes he’s away for more than a week at a time, I have no friends where we’re moving and I think I’ll feel lonely. I have a mini panick attack thinking about it.

I understand the “it’s final” feeling, it’s frustrating to think you “won’t come back”, but as PPs said I do think it’s normal to feel this way, just make sure those around you know how you’re feeling and ask for their support, it’s a difficult transition.

((HUGS))

 

Post # 8
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tirralirra:  I cried like a newborn baby when I moved out of my parents house.  And I moved about 45 minutes away to the new home I purchased with my husband.  Yes I was super excited to have my own house (my and my husband lived together about 4 years prior so there wasn’t so much excitement related to living together, but still).  But it was hard, leaving my childhood home, not having my parents downstairs, etc.  So needless to say your feelings are COMPLETELY normal!  I think you have to chalk this up to growing pains.  And own the emotions, it’s ok.  It sounds like your Fiance is reasonably understanding… when it comes to his being hurt/confused, just talk to him about it.  It’s not about him.

Best of luck to you.  Just know that it’s a matter of time before you settle in and get back to feeling “normal” again.

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