(Closed) Sad But True

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that you should try your best to putina  smile for her day and hope that she can rise to the occasion for yours as well. I know that sounds like it might hard/impossible but it sounds like this is not atypical behavior for you friend (only child etcetc) and that once the weddings are over you may realize that some of the things that are driving you crazy about her right now are things that you usally love about her. I think that she does seem to be really centered on herself right now but you have to remember that you have lover her and laughed and cried with her through things that have been good and bad before and this is just going to be one more chapter in your friendship story. As weird or uncomfortable as it might seem this year to support one another through these events I bet that you will be really happy to have her by your side when you start having babies, have your first marriage crisises and plan for your golden anniversaries. Weddings can bring out crazy things in people but I think it is important to remember how things were before and as long as no one does anything too drastic (ie drop out of a wedding party) they will be after. Also if you think that you two need a little time to have fun together what about planning a wedding free activity for the two of you? Plan to run a 5K together, go on a weekend adventure somewhere fun, go wine tasting or make one another some kid of jewery/pottery at one of those fun little studios and try to have some of that fun that you used to have together (even if it is right back to stressful in the short term). I am sure she is not trying to hurt you and I doubt she realizes how out of control she is and I am betting you will both be very thankfuk to have one another after it is all over.

Hope that helped a little. 🙂

Post # 5
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow…just wow… I guess you have two choices:

1) Suport her like yellowbee said and let her insanity go

2) If you are sure that this friendship can’t be salvaged, I would tell her that you’d rather step down. I’m sure at that point she’ll ask why and you can explain your reasons and you’ll either work through it or it truly will be the end.

Good luck hun!

Post # 6
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Holy cow!! I have never heard of a bridal competition so out of hand before. Well, first of all, good job to you for not getting involved in the one-upping! That is ridiculous and immature. I totally understand your feelings on the matter. I would be super frustrated too. At this point, I would maybe talk to them. Explain how you feel. However, maybe talking isn’t the best idea with someone this irrational. I would go with your gut. Maybe asking her to step down is for the best. But most of all, don’t let yourself get caught up in their drama. You stayed out of it for a reason. So, for the time being, go ahead and laugh at how ridiculous they are being, but don’t get upset about it. Good luck!! Hope everything works out 🙂

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