(Closed) Sad Day

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What would you do in my situation?
    Call the Dr. to push it back 1 week (husband will be home) : (79 votes)
    71 %
    Find someone else to go with you : (10 votes)
    9 %
    Suck it up and go alone, it'll be fine : (20 votes)
    18 %
    Other (please explain) : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think if you can change the appointment you should.  This seems like something your husband really wants to be a part of (and should).  If for some reason you just can’t make it work I think you should find someone else to go with you.

    Post # 4
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Maybe go alone, b/c you don’t really want to push back your first real prenatal appt. I voted other b/c maybe you can get a recording of the baby’s heartbeat at the Dr’s office and send it to your husband. Or have him on the phone so that he can hear it, even if he can’t be there physically? Talk it over with your Dr and see what your options are.

    Post # 5
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    From reading other people’s posts on this board, there are more men that don’t go to the appointments than do.  A lot of the time, as you are finding out, it’s impossible (or really super duper hard) for them to take the time off that is needed to be at all those appointments.  

    That being said, take your mom or a friend if you don’t want to go alone.  Although I’m pretty sure that some of those you will be going by yourself.


    As for your birthday, I’m so sorry he’s missing it!  I hope he’ll plan something great for your when he gets back 🙂

    Post # 6
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would reschedule so that he could be there, personally. 

    Post # 7
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    When I was pregnant with my kids, I did everything alone. The kid’s father was in the military and gone all the time. It really wasn’t so bad. In your situation though, if it really means that much to your husband, I would reschedule the appointment, for when he gets back. If he won’t be too disappointed with you going alone, I would do that.

    Post # 8
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you should do what is the best for you. While it may be “normal” for the guy to not be there, I know I would not be comfortable with that. So, if you are ok going alone or bringing someone else, do that. If not, i’d definitely change the appointment! 🙂

    Post # 9
    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would definitely reschedule so he could be there. I’m not even having my first ultrasound until 11-12 weeks, so you aren’t going to be behind on things or anything.

    Post # 10
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If it were me I would reschedule so that he could be there.

    Post # 11
    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think I would reschedule if I were in your position.

    Post # 12
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I would reschedule since it is obviously important to you. 


    Post # 13
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I went alone but would have loved to have had company.

    Post # 14
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m with the PPs on saying reschedule (earlier) if you could. I wouldn’t push it back, though. And if it doesn’t work out for him to join you, see if your tech is cool with having your computer with you so Darling Husband can Skype in and still ‘be there’ with you to see it, talk to you, and share the excitement. 

    Post # 16
    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Aww Mrs. Sand Dollar that really stinks! 

    I had to move one of our u/s appointments (8w so hopefully will hear the h/b for the first time) because Darling Husband wasn’t able to attend.  Luckily I only had to move it 1 day but it was important to me that he be able to join in.  I think its hard for guys to get attached to the baby but by hearing the heartbeat hopefully they can. 

    If you are going the conference call route, you may want to call and make sure the u/s machine actually creates an audible h/b sound.  I guess sometimes early on its just a visable flicker. 

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