- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
‘ve been on bee for a while, I don’t post very often but just needed some support tonight. So if you can hang in there to read this mess, I appreciate your time greatly.
Sorry, this may be long. Just a little background, FI’s mother has bipolar disorder. Throughout his childhood, she has been in and out of psych hospitalizations, and Fiance has been there and supportive. Very sad situation as well as incredibly tough. So, bringing us to today, she goes through her ups(which have been known to include drug use) and downs and lately more often downs. And when she has downs, she calls Fiance (and everyone else)and harasses him and picks fights. Which is followed by him getting upset that his mom is this way and sad that things can’t be more normal.
So wedding related- his parents have been a part of our plans, we keep them updated on everything, and they had volunteered to pay for the booze at the reception and the rehearsal dinner, we’re having a big wedding around 250 guests so this was really really appreciated by us. And his mom had been off and on excited about things, and even finally chose a place to have the rehearsal dinner, which was more than we expected from her.
So here we are 2 1/2 months before the wedding, FI’s mom has been in a down for a couple of weeks. Daily she has been calling us and telling us how we don’t include her, we are pushing her away, we don’t care that she now has some “unexplained” illness, we are insensitive to her etc. So, we have been trying not to overreact,and have just been taking it day by day with her . Well, today she called and said some really awful things to Fiance about us and basically told Fiance that her and his dad will no longer be a part of our wedding and that we also will need to “pay for our own damn liquor” and rehearsal dinner.
I wanna say it’s just one her downs, but this time Fiance is deeply hurt, upset and just flat out sick of dealing with it. I don’t know what to do or say to comfort him, plus now i need to figure out what to do and how we will possibly come up with a spare $5000+ to cover what his parents were supposed to cover.
i’m just so sad, so very sad for Fiance that he has to deal with this. I know she has mental illness, but things are just always so sooo soo incredibly hard and sad when it comes to her. i wish i knew what to do..
thanks for listening bees sorry so long….