(Closed) Sad, disappointed, and can't believe this is still dragging on (kinda long)

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

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datura:  Same here my ring is white gold mixed with palladium so no worries about allergies.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You can book the venue without the ring on your finger! They aren’t going to look at your hand and refuse you the ability to book because you don’t have a ring! It’s tough but you just need to keep going, and the ring and proposal will be here before you know it. If you cancel at this point, all you’re going to do is further your wait and make it harder on yourself.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Sorry but you sound a little uptight about the whole thing.  I understand that you are desperate to be married by a certain age – me to but I have to accept I will be 34/35 by the time that happens. Not ideal but it sounds like you are so intent on rushing everything you aren’t enjoying the actual process. You will get your ring soon and no reason why you can’t reserve a venue. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You know with all the other wedding details and vendors that you will have to work with for wedding planning you are going to have to deal with things not going exactly as planned without becoming a stressed out mess.

Consider this situation a learning experience at how to keep your cool and have patience when working with other people. You don’t want to be that bride that has a literal melt-down over mismatched table linens.

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

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cherryiice:  I get that your SO doesn’t want to propose without THE ring. But since y’all are already in the ring ordering process, then there is no reason why you can’t take part in the wedding planning process. No one has to know when you booked your venues (why would they care anyway) if that’s your concern. And if you’re worried about wrinkles in your wedding pic, that’s what photoshop is for! I was 33 on my wedding day and 6 years later, I still look exactly the same 🙂 

Just saw your last post: Vendors will take your seriously. They only look at $$ that you’ll be spending, not your ring! Trust me, they’ve seen it all and could care two hoots whether your custom ring is ready or not. 

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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cherryiice:  I’m sure wedding vendors have seen many couple without an engagement ring, and honestly they probably wouldn’t even notice if your wearing a ring or not. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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cherryiice:  It’s emotionally easier to blame all these jewelers than to blame the real source of your issue: your SO. If you are fine “being engaged” without a ring, but he refuses to consider yourselves engaged without a ring, then it’s his fault you “can’t” start planning yet and your preferred venues and vendors are booking up. Ask him straight up: “Are you comfortable with actively planning an August 2016 wedding? Because I am and if we’re in agreement on that, we need to get started.” The end. If he says no, then the delay is on him. If he says yes, then start making the calls. There is no reason in the world that you can’t book a venue without a ring on your finger. “They won’t take me seriously” isn’t real. If you have money, they’ll take you seriously.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

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cherryiice:  A venue will take you seriously as long as you can make a down payment. That is all they care about. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

Just go ahead and start planning your wedding since you are so worried about not having enough time. You know you are going to get a ring soon, if you stop changing jewelers, so there’s no point in waiting if things are filling up and you know what you want…

I get it on the ring thing, but I think you need to be patient. It’s pointless to keep switching jewelers, you’ll never get a ring at that point. You would’ve already had a ring if you would’ve stayed with the first guy, or even the second. We put a deposit down on my custom ring on July 1 and were told it would be July 29 at the latest, which was perfect since we were leaving for Hawaii on August 10. We found out August 4 that my ring hadn’t even been started yet. Of course I was very upset, but that lasted for a day. We went on vacation and Fiance proposed with a stand in. I didn’t get my custom ring until October 6. It was definitely worth the wait….Patience my friend, patience..

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It sounds like you’re really impatient. I got impatient with you just reading the whole post about this. You’ve got to take a step back and realize life can happen with or without a ring. You are going to be VERY busy posting on here once you’re engaged and you can’t work out your patience problem with vendors, family members and your soon to be fiancé. Seriously- if you’re making the engageKent ring and proposal this stressful you will NOT enjoy wedding planning. Please please just drop it for awhile and take a break from worrying about the day you get the ring and worry about spending this time being with your boyfriend and strengthening your relationship. 

Trust me, I have been in your position and I’m not saying your feelings are invalid or wrong, you just need to control them a little more. Your frustration seems to be like a PP has said- with your boyfriend and the time he has already made you wait to get this whole process started in the first place. Stop and appreciate him and you and your relationship together. Everything else will fall into place!!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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cherryiice: I think you are panicking and rushing a proposal/ring. Anything custom or from a designer takes time and the dates they give you are projected dates- not set in stone. I think you are being very quick to give up on these jewelers the minute something doesn’t happen as quick as you are expecting and you are wayyyy to anxious about timelines.

If you are worried about planning- there’s no reason you can’t plan it before the ring is on your finger. It’s not that serious.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

I understand your frustration, but try to put this into perspective. It’s wedding season. Trying to get a custom ring from a jeweler in the summer is like trying to run out for a few toys on Christmas eve.

I agree they should have called you to inform you of the delay, but they didn’t. They’re probably backed up and a lot of other couples are waiting on their rings too.

We had a custom ring made last summer and I nearly went crazy waiting, too. When you finally get it, all of that frustration will be forgotten. Trust me! 

I agree with PP’s that vendors will not give two hoots whether you have a ring or not. Go get your nails done and start planning your wedding!

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My ring is a SimonG and all his wg is alloyed with palladium.

Try to relax, the ring will be in soon enough. Your anger at the latest jeweler is misplaced.

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