(Closed) Sad high “No” RSVPs

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee

@spitfire229: Sorry hun. I can understand the sadness when people RSVP no. We were so happy to get no’s but I understand it is a two-way road. Try to think of the positives, more food for everyone else and more room on the dance floor!

Post # 4
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sorry ๐Ÿ™ I was expecting alot of nos as well, because about 1/2 our guestlist is canadian, and to make the trip to Australia is obviously not possible for many people.  But, secretly I was hoping for some surprise yesses, and none have come through ๐Ÿ™  Only my immediate family and a few friends of my parents (retirees) are making the trip.  I should have been prepared – i’ve missed about 7 of my friends weddings in the past 2 years cause i’m a teacher and can only take time off during holidays (and alot of my friends from home are teachers as well, so they are in the same boat), so its not like i can be uppity about it.  Still, its always sad when not everyone you want will be there.  Just try and focus on the positives and you’ll still have a great day!! And it gives you a chance to relive the day over and over when you describe it to people who couldn’t come. 


Post # 5
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@spitfire229: wow! you made your rsvp deadline almost THREE MONTHS before your wedding date? I don’t think it has anything to do with being Greek…I’m sure I wouldn’t have rsvped on that timeline! (sorry, I know that’s not what you asked…)

Post # 6
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

ugh… you are living my nightmare!!!


hope the smaller party is 100 times better than you hoped for!

Post # 7
100 posts
Blushing bee

@spitfire229: Look at the up side:

1. You will have more money in the bank (for a house, or a future baby, or anniversary bling! hehe)

2. Your loved & close friends and fam will be there.

3. You get your original smaller, intimate wedding.

4. You will probably get some more “yes” responses since you have not heard from everyone yet.

5. You are still marrying your dream man!! ๐Ÿ™‚


No worries, it will still be amazing!!!!

Post # 8
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@spitfire229: Honey, we set out for 220 people and only 140 will attend the wedding. A lot of FI’s family decline because they could not afford the trip. I’m sad because he will not have a lot of family there AND we have lost $1800 because we could not change the count.

So, we are in the same boat :-/

Post # 9
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We only had a 3.5 month engagement and the wedding is across the country from where I live, so not surprisingly, almost all relatives who live in CA and OR will be there, while very few of my friends who live on the east coast or elsewhere will make it (like pretty much the wedding party and that’s it). I sort of expected this, but it does make me sad that a lot of the people I love won’t be there.  And part of me feels annoyed that I made the effort to attend their weddings but they aren’t making the effort for mine… the other part of me understands that it’s not a very fair comparison considering they had a lot less notice to plan vacation time, save the money for the flight, etc.

In any case, I would try not to take it personally. The economy sucks right now and a lot of people are pinching pennies. It could be that they don’t have the money to travel or don’t feel like they could afford a gift. I would just keep reminding yourself, like you are, that it is going to save you a lot of money and be much more intimate.


Post # 10
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had about a 50% positive RSVP. We were upset but in the end we were okay with a small wedding and with the small number we were able to spend time with everyone during the reception which was nice.

Post # 12
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can imagine that receiving “no’s” is hard. Even if you originally wanted to have fewer people, after agreeing on a certain number you hope that most will be able to make it. I hope that you’ll receive a few “yes’s” in the next few days… they shoul cheer you up a bit!

Post # 13
44 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

One of my friend faced the same situation as you are facing……..she too felt bad about it but on her wedding day she was happy to have her close ones with her…….
I understand how you are feeling but there is nothing you can do about it……
Take it in positive way that now you can save a lot of money and can use that money on something more useful…..or just save the money for your your future ๐Ÿ™‚ ……

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