(Closed) Sad lately…

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@aguilpul: I have never been pregnant. However,  I think what you are feeling right now is completely normal.   I can tell you my mood swings with just my monthly hormones. Right now your body and hormones are going through some serious changes.  Look to your hubby for support and of course the wb.  Stay positive as best you can.

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

This sounds like pregnancy hormones all the way. You have to remind yourself that pregnancy for you is SO different than for dads. You can feel the changes from the very beginning, whereas all they know if how they effect you in interacting with him/situations. Idk when you’re due or how far along you are but I do know that dads start to get a little more “reactive” when they can see kicks and feel the baby move… the times they hear the heart beat, etc. It’s not because they’re not excited it’s just the way they’re wired… Pregancy hits us at the onset and really hits them when they have a baby in their arms. lol

Remind yourself of you husbands heart, and tell any thoughts that are contrary to that that you’re not going to even consider them as truth. Talk with you Darling Husband about it and just take this time fears & excitements to bring you two closer… not letting them isolate you

(((hugs))) and CONGRATS!!!!!!!!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

In the first trimester, I had multiple bouts of real loneliness and sadness.  I think it was hormone-related, because it settled down quite a bit more in the second trimester.  Unfortunately, it cam back again in a few episodes in the third trimester.  Just do your best to remain calm and realize that some of these feelings are out of your control.  It’s ok to cry, it’s ok to vent.  You don’t want to keep those emotions bottled up, so let them out!

Reading your second post, I think your fears are totally valid.  Having a baby absolutely will change your relationship with your husband and there’s times you’ll probably feel distant from him.  But the good news is, you can take proactive steps now to prevent your relationship from suffering!  You can take parenting/child preparation courses together, go to counseling to learn/strengthen your communication skills, and read books like And Baby Makes Three that can teach you skills to smooth the transition.  I always say, it only gets harder after the baby gets here, so start working now to guarantee your relationship is in tip-top shape, and I bet a lot of your fears, worries, and sadness will subside a bit.  🙂

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it’s harder for boys to be excited about the pregnancy b/c it’s not as real to them as it is to us. Maybe you can try to get your husband involved. I get a weekly email from babycenter that I always forward to my husband so we always have fun discussing what’s new with the baby and my body.

Although I do agree with the others, it’s probably just hormones.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m also very sad right now, which is made much worse by the fact that my SO is working out if provonce for four weeks at a time for the next several months. THe first few days he was gone I did nothing but cry. He said he’d come home and not go next month, but I have repeatedly reassured him that its magnified by my pregancy hormones.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would say that it is totally normal. I sometimes feel the same way.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

How far along are you?

I’m almost 29 weeks and it wasn’t until the last month or 2 when my husband started to seem excited.

When I told him I was pregnant he said to me “Wow! I wish we had more time”. Certainly not the reaction you see in the movies! haha!

He was just stressed about scared about the responsibility, the money etc…

We always wanted kids and we were trying…..but he was much more scared than excited for the first 5+ months. 

I hear about husbands who are so thrilled and excited, my husband was much more reserved and fearful about how hard it would be. 

I just wanted to say that his reaction may be a very normal one.

 

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