- Wellington Bride
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Tonight my mother launched an attack on me about my dress over the phone. I told her I’d had my final fitting (it’s actually on Saturday) because I don’t want her there. She made me feel miserable when she came last time, about a month ago. She is narcissistic and can’t separate herself and me. I have a history of bulimia, was very unwell for 7 years, have been recovered now for 3 years. during the fitting when she was scrutinising me I’ve started having the old bulimic thoughts again. Can’t bear my body and how I’m looking. So when my mother rang me tonight and interrogated me about whether I’d taken most of the volume out of the skirt (I’m not planning to) because it makes me look pregnant and have big hips (her words) and also she said she’s deeply concerned about the bodice- she doesn’t think it does anything for me. I just broke down after the phone call.
Ive just spent the last hour terribly upset, huge gut wrenching sobs. I have my final fitting on Saturday, we are sorting out the bust to make it firmer, and the dress will have been hemmed for me by then so I can walk around Etc. I’m taking my bridesmaids and mother-in-law to be who is just amazing. I’m just so sad. My wedding is less than a month away and all my mother can talk about is her dress that she’s had made and her hat ages had made and her pearls and how much they’re worth and just how GORGEOUS she looks in all of it.
Anyone else gone through something like this, and how did you move forward?