(Closed) Sad. My mother told me I look fat in my dress.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

First of all you look awesome second of all I love my mom but if I was in your position I would tell her to go eff herself. But thats just me, the comment was totally unnecessary

Post # 63
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Wellington Bride  Aww sweetie, I’m sorry your mom is behaving like a troll. You look absolutely beautiful in that dress!  Whatever criticisms she has of you are, quite simply, wrong.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh, girl. My mother has NPD, too, it sucks! I for one think you look gorgeous in that dress, but I, as someone who also once had an ED (AN) understand that my telling you that probably doesn’t do much for you. 

The thing with NPD moms is that I’ve noticed with my own and a lot of other girls who had them, they seem almost jealous of their own children. Just chock it up to her being a crazy and enjoy your day! You look STUNNING, and I know your fiance will love that dress…I know it’s hard, but try to focus on all the positive comments you get rather than the comments of an old lady who has a serious mental issue, that’s normally what I do. I just kinda go “my mom’s f***ing nuts, she’s spiteful but she’s also crazy.” 

Post # 65
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You look beautiful in your dress and not fat at all!  When I got married the first time my mom went dress shopping with me and told me I looked fat in every dress (I was 115 pounds at the time).  I ended up picking a dress that I didn’t like because I felt like nothing looked good on me.  This time, I didn’t take her with me when I bought my dress but I took her when I picked it up and I told her that she better have kind things to say or else! Laughing  Some mothers tend to be jealous of their daughters or try to live through them.  Don’t let her ruin your special day!  *hugs*

Post # 66
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Worker bee

@Wellington Bride  I’m sorry to hear about your mother. TBH your mother is insecure which is why she is launching a verbal attack on you about your looks. I know from experience, my mother was exactly the same, I suffered from anorexia and bulimia from the age of 7 up until I graduated high school. I was put on a strict diet from a young age and it was tough and I somehow managed to forgive her and work through my own body image. The best thing I could tell you is to tell your mother what she is doing is not okay. She’ll take offense to it and probably deny that she never meant hurt for what she said, but at least you’ll stand your ground. You look absolutely beautiful in your dress and you do not look FAT whatsoever, you look GORGEOUS. It took me not speaking to my mother for 2 years for her to learn to watch what she says around me, and I’m not saying that; that is what you have to do. But sometimes it’s best to distance yourself from people like that.

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No offense to your Mom, but you don’t look fat in that dress! You look GLORIOUS!

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

BIG BIG HUGS TO YOU!  For starters – congrats on bravely battling an eating disorder. Eating disorders are wicked animals and you have the heart and strength of a tiger to have come this far.

#2 – you look AMAZING in your dress.  I love the way the skirt flares – it adds to your overall bridal look and it would be a shame to take out any of the volume.  PS – little jealous of your cleavage…that’s an area I’m lacking a bit and wouldn’t mind borrowing some of yours. 

The best part about that picture?  It’s your big smile.  You look genuinely happy and that’s the best look you can have on your wedding day.   Honestly screw your mom and her negative thoughts.  You will look beautiful on your wedding – and I can guarantee your Fiance will think so too.  🙂

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know its hard to hear that from a mom (my moms the same way) You just have to block her out as best as you can, surround yourself with ppl that’ll tell you the truth. I think you lookabsolutaly beautiful!  A true bridal vision, keep your chin up darling, When your walking down the isle none of it will matter =D

Post # 70
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Helper bee

Firstly I just want to say how incredibly beauitful you look in your dress!

Secondly please ignor your mom I’m so sorry she is being so horrible to you, you really do look just perfect, i’m so sorry you are going thru this <3

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

My mother is doing the exact same thing to me. She keeps telling me I need to lose weight for the wedding. She has never in my entire life accepted me as I am. You just have to find a way to ignore it because they’ll never change. Stop bringing her to fittings. Bring friends who are supportive. Realize that this is her issue, not yours. You are beautiful and look stunning in your dress. Your mom can go suck it. 

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t let this get you down! This is just another form of bullying. My mother tends to be the same way, and has for as many years as I can remember. Ever since I started developing boobs , she had always said bad things about me, just whatever she could get leverage with me over. But you know what, when I hit 17 and realized I was alot prettier than she made me out to be, I don’t let it get me down!

You look beautiful and you should never listen to what others say. The only person you should be concerned about is you.

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@Wellington Bride  girl go tell your mother that she can stuff her opinion where the sun doesnt shine. you look georgous and given her personality type she is just jelous so trying to bring you down. i completly undertand where you are coming from my mother is the same way and the way i got her to shut the hell up was finally just getting pissed at the way she was making me feel and saying what i thought without editing to be nice. its a hard thing to do but you will beel so much better and it will shw her that her comments are not welcome or acepable 

you look amazing in your dress and your makeup trial the other day you will be an absoloutly stunning bride. dont let her jelousy bring you down 🙂 

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

you look beautiful and that shape is extremely flattering! Coming from someone with big hips (which btw I love) don’t listen to what she has to say! MAybe she is jealous? Agree with others, focus on how you FEEL and how beautiful you are going to look walking down the isle!

Post # 75
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

You look amazing. I’m so sorry you’re hurting.

Post # 76
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Busy Beekeeper

Really? If thats fat I’ll take two please. I love, love, love how that dress is on you.

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