(Closed) Sad. My mother told me I look fat in my dress.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 107
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You should have said this to your mom:

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Post # 108
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Wellington Bride: you are beautiful, and your mom is delusional. get rid of the poof? too hippy? look pregnant?! WHAT?!?! See, delusional. you are rockin’ that dress and you should forget everything your mom said. tell her to shut it next time she opens her big mouth. it’s clear she has some major issues with herself if she feels the need to attack her OWN daughter.

Post # 109
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow, how horrible. I can’t help but feel like there are some jealousy issues here. Don’t listen to her- trust the experts here instead!

Anyways, I commented to say that that dress is incredibly flattering on you, and I am being perfectly honest. I prefer a natural waistline on ANYONE, no matter if they are size 0 or 24! That dress accentuates the narrowness of your waist and flows gracefully outwards. I also LOVE that your dress has straps- they along with the sweetheart frame your face so perfectly!

Post # 110
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Wellington Bride:  I just wanted to say you look absolutely beautiful in the dress.  I have to disagree with your mother- I think the skirt is the perfect shape for you as it is.  It just skims over your hips elegantly, and I think the amount of fullness is exactly right.  I like the way the bodice criss-crosses, it makes your waist look slender and emphasizes your bust.  And I adore the slight sleeve as well.  I’m actually an advocate of hair up, just because I like the way it looks in the photo, but I’m sure any hairstyle will work beautifully with that dress.

 

All in all, I think you look romantic and bridal, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with your dress, or your body.  🙂

Post # 111
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s so funny – I remember seeing that picture of you in another post a day or two ago and being like, “Daaaamn! She looks great!” 

I’m glad to read your update – it sounds like you’re really good at setting boundaries with her and realizing that her behavior speaks only to her own insecurity and narcissism rather than anything about you. It’s obvious that she is going out of her way to tear you down, and she would do it whether you were a size zero or a size thirty. You look completely stunning, that dress is gorgeous on you and you look gorgeous in it! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding and your beautiful dress! 

Post # 112
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

*hugs hugs hugs*

It makes me so sad when I hear about Mum’s saying such aweful things. What the hell are they thinking?!

You look stunning in that dress.  The cut is super flattering.  Please don’t let her plant insecurities in your head.  You glowing for heaven’s sake! 

Everytime you hear her voice in your head and you start to have those feelings, imagine yourself shutting the door in her face and it will help! It really will! Just remember, it’s all about you! And you LOOK AMAZING!

Post # 113
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Wellington Bride:  My reaction at seeing your picture — “Oh! So pretty!” That dress is lovely on you! Your mother has no idea what she’s talking about.

 

Post # 114
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your mom sounds like a real jerk.  I’m sorry, but please don’t indulge her.  You look lovely and your husband-to-be will think so too. 

Post # 115
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Wellington Bride:  For what it’s worth I think you look breathtakingly gorgeous in your dress, and you will look even more so on your wedding day! 

Post # 116
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Wellington Bride: OMG I want to smack her on your behalf! 

Ok, I saw your pic on the unconventional dress thread and I thought to myself “WOW is that one gorgeous dress and one beautiful bride!” 

You do NOT look fat, you look incredible and please do not let anybody let you feel less than perfect in that gown, because that is what you are. Seriously. I have major dress envy, except that dress wouldn’t look half as good on me because I have no boobs. LOL. You look spectacular. My only advice would be to seriously cut your mother out of your life as much as possible, because she clearly has her own emotional issues and she is toxic.

Post # 117
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You look beautiful. I’m so sorry that your mother is saying those things to you, they’re NOT TRUE, and I know how awful it is to have a parent who just tries to destroy your self-worth at every turn. Ignore her much as you can, go get married looking gorgeous as you do and have a lovely life <3

Post # 118
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Wellington Bride:  Omg is your mother freakin blind?!?! All I see is how stunning you look….. Seriously!!

I too have an over critical mother….My mom criticized pretty much everything about my wedding. I am so sorry she’s being so harsh. Please don’t let her harshness trigger your past history of the eating disorder. I know it’s easier said than done but try to let it go in one ear and out the other! 

Post # 119
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Wellington Bride:  Okay let me see how I can put this……..U LOOK AMAZING.I am not telling you this because of trying to make you feel better cuz of ur mom.I am telling you because it’s the truth.

You said it yourself: She is narcissistic and can’t separate herself and me.

Please keep your planning and excitement to your expectations.


I don’t personally know your mom and I mean no harm when I say she sounds JEALOUS. 

1 fact, 3 words : you look beautiful (Imagine how you’ll look o your wedding day if you looked like that)

♥ (for you) ♥ (for the dress)

Post # 120
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m sorry, but that dress is GORGEOUS on you!  I think you look absolutely fantastic, please don’t think down about yourself.  I am seriously jealous of how you look in that picture.

Post # 121
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Helper bee

You look beautiful in your dress! And I loveee the volume in your skirt. Overall, your dress looks ethereal, romantic, and bridal. Would reducing the volume make you look slimmer? Maybe. But so would dying it black, since, you know, black is slimming. And “slimmer” isn’t a better or worse thing, it’s just different. More importantly, you looked proportioned, you look radiant, you look like a princess. Aiming for “slimmer” would likely make you less radiant, less ethereal, and less a lot of amazing things the dress currently does for you. Love what you have, you seriously look great.

One thing I would *personally* do is try to lower the criss-crossing on the bodice so it cuts under your boob instead of over it. But I like boobs, and I like them to be enhanced, so it’s definitely a personal preference and not a necessity. With or without the suggested change, I’m positive there will be a lot of teary eyes when you come down the aisle; your hair and makeup isn’t even done, and I already think you make a stunning bride

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