Member+1 I will always love my cousin and her son. I believe that PPD is a strong possibility as well as other diagnoses. My cousin has told me that she doesn’t think she is “all right upstairs.” I have recommended visiting her family doctor as well as seeking a therapist. My cousin has group therapy with other single moms who are struggling. She finds it very helpful.
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MemberI appreciate the way you shared your disappointment in me without personal attacks. This is what I was referring to when I mentioned intelligence and maturity to attacking posters.
As for your sadness, I do not have any suggestions as to how you can deal with that. Quite frankly, I do not see what lectures after the fact are going to accomplish. I have more than enough emotional upheaval to deal with as a result of this situation. I honestly do not have any more energy to defend myself from those who want to take me to task. I’m sure you understand my sentiment. I can’t remember the last time I was this spent.
The intake worker I spoke to earlier has said that I am the best person to take care of my cousin temporarily based on the stability that I can give him. She didn’t even mention my childfreedom as a factor. It is out of our hands and perhaps CAS will recommend that my baby cousin stay with his mother while she is monitored by them. I will update with their decision tomorrow as the intake worker has promised to keep in touch with me.
Thanks again for your diplomatic response. 
Take care.
MemberIf you go back in the thread, you’ll see that my husband and I have agreed to take my baby cousin temporarily if needed. I know it is too time consuming to read every single post so no biggie. 
Your words about blessings are spot on. For example, my husband and I struggled financially for a long time and now I see that as a blessing because it strengthened our relationship. I refused to leave him no matter how much materialistic SOBs sneered at us for renting a crappy apartment.
MemberThanks babe. You have made some very good points about the possibility of getting attached to my baby cousin. I am already very attached to him but this feeling would only grow stronger if I had him for a long time.
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For the record, I firmly believe you already knew you were making the call and taking temporary custody before you even posted.
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MemberI come from a similar type of culture where people don’t just call the police on their families, where abuse is sometimes condoned, and I understand the courage it took you to call CAS. I am happy and relieved the little guy will live with you for a while, until better arrangements are found.
please keep him safe.
MemberMemberOn a very personal note, my own mom had PPD and some other emotional problems on top when I was a baby and ended up under fulltime psychiatric care. I don’t know that she hit me or anything, I was too young to remember but her PPD was severe enough for her to be hospitalized so home must have been chaotic. My parents were married but my dad was pretty immature back in the day and couldn’t handle work & a baby on his own and so an aunt took me in for a few months. It couldn’t have been easier on her because she had 2 small kids of her own to care for, but I will always remember that she did that for me, even if I was too young to remember it.
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I greatly appreciate your support and understanding of how powerful cultural conditioning can be.
I am guessing that your family is not from North America. It is hard for someone on the outside of certain cultures to fully understand the implications of calling the authorities on a family member.
Everything is eerily quiet and that makes me nervous. I have not received notifications from my cousin or the CAS worker. Hopefully I will hear from them on Monday.
Member“The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.” – Albert Einstein
“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” – Edmund Burke
MemberTHis BEE closed her account yesterday so this thread should probably be closed now
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I know you mention you and your husband have agreed to not have children. Have you discussed the situation with your husband? I know there are a lot of legal and emotional consequences but if other families are not an option it may be worth a discussion.
I would just hate to see this little boy grow up either being abused for the rest of his life or being bounced between foster homes. In any case, he shouldn’t be with his mother.
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