Post # 1
Well my wedding ceremony is coming up next year and I couldnt be more excited…except Im sad my mom wont be there> This is by my choice you see.
My mother and I havent spoken in over 2 years. I was removed from my moms house by CPS. She was extremely abusive- physically and emotionally.
I would have cuts, bruises, chunks of hair ripped out, scratch marks etc when she was done with me. she would call me a mistake and a bad daughter. These events hurt me so deeply that i STILL Have nightmares about it. It really has shaken me.
But we had good times (although rare) and it just makes me sad I can even have my own MOTHER at my wedding. I wish I could share that with her but she would be a tyrant and make my life a living hell!
Is anyone estranged from any close family members? I feel so alone…
Post # 3
((hugs)) I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m estranged from my older brother.. he’s such a jerk, he’s the most evil person I’ve ever met, so he won’t be there. He’s done so much stuff, I can’t even list it all out. It hurts when a close family member just can’t get it together and have the relationship with you, you really want to have. At least you’ll have others there that will be there for you.
Post # 4
I am really sorry you’re going through this. I can in no way relate, but I just wanted to offer my support. I hope that your wedding day is wonderful despite your sadness at the absence of your mother.
Post # 5
Awe, HUGS Osakagirl!!! You are missing a mother, but not your mom, if that makes sense. There will always be times in your life where you wish you had a mom who was awesome. During these trying times, lean on your friends, other family, HUSBAND, and of course the ‘Bee for support.
Post # 6
I have a thread going right now (Not sure to invite my mother) … I am in a somewhat similar situation, no physical abuse … but I was taken by CPS (or, we call them CCAS up here in Canada, and if you’re Catholic) when I was a little girl, and my mom has continually let me down emotionally for the last 16 years.
So, you are not alone.
I understand about the feeling of knowing that you’re mother has failed you and hurt you, and has not been a mother … but still, sad about her not being there to share in the day.