- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
My younger sister and I are best friends. Our parents got divorced when she was young, and we’ve always had each others backs, so we are closer than a lot of siblings are. When I was 14, and she was 10 our mother went to prison, forcing us even closer, because of her absence.
I’ve been with my SO for 3 years, and we have been talking about marriage for a while now. We haven’t set a date, and we aren’t officially engaged yet, but the plan is to get married this coming fall.
My sister took a job in Korea teaching English at the end of November. She signed a contract for one year. Before she decided to go we talked a lot about how she would miss helping me with wedding stuff, and she said that she had to do this for herself. I was upset but I tried to let it go. Now that she is there, and we are looking at venues and trying to pick a date I’m feeling devastated that my sister won’t be here to help me with all of this. Not because I want her to DO stuff for me, but because I always imagined she’d be a part of the whole process. She won’t be around for any showers or the bachelorette party.
She asked me if I could put it off, but we are moving next year for grad school, so if we want to have it in our home state we have a limited time frame.
The worst part is when she first got to Korea she was miserable and would skype me crying saying she couldn’t believe she was going to miss all of this important stuff, and how awful she felt and how she wanted to come home, and I had some hope that maybe she would. Then she dropped it and didn’t mention it agian and today told me she would try to fly home for my wedding.
I know it sounds stupid, but I’m just devastated that she won’t be at my shower or bachelorette party, and that there is a chance she won’t even be at my wedding. It’s a 14 hour flight, so that is a long ways for three days, which is all she could take off, and it’s also really expensive.
Anybody else have any situations where someone important to them ended up far away and couldn’t be as big of a part of your day and how you dealt with that?