Post # 1
I am uber sad about saying goodbye to my last name. I never knew I was so attached to it! I have a beautiful, unique, hard-to-spell, Italian last name (in the past, I’ve loved it and hated it for various reasons)…I am gaining a more generic, run of the mill last name. I am very traditional and there has never been any doubt in my mind that I wouldn’t take FI’s last name—but the whole process has me a bit sad. The weird part is, that I thought I wouldn’t mind this–I was excited to gain an “easier” last name! I usually like change and I’m super adaptable. I’ve just been so upset the last few weeks when I think about it—I was even crying to Fiance about it because this is my last birthday with my original name!!!!! (cough*cough*lameeeeee!!!!)
I am not considering keeping my name, or adding a hyphen, or changing it to my middle name, or anything else! But I just want to let the world know that I am sad to say goodbye to my name—it’s been a good name and I will miss it.
Post # 3
I totally understand!! It IS sad but you get used to it. Plus, after you go through the actual process, you will be so glad it’s done that you’ll forget about being sad. There are SO many things to change!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I am keeping my maiden name as my middle name and using my full name on everything that will let me… but I’m still so sad about losing it as my official surname that I’m getting it tattooed on me. 😉
Post # 5
VirginiaMarie – I’m the same way. All of the decendants on my dad’s side have girls. While I’m not the last generation with this last name.. the next one is… it’s hard for me too, but I want to take my FIs name. I know people who have added it as their middle name, or made it a second middle name.
It is emotional, but also symbolic, and it has a lot of meaning, so I understand why you are attached.
Post # 6
I am sad about this as well. It will be so strange to have a new name. The change is not too drastic for me though since I will still have the same initials and the same amount of letters as my name now.
Post # 7
My last name now is _ _ _. Yup, generic, short, to the point. I was always bummed growing up it was so short! I’ll be getting FI’s Polish last name of _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _. I didn’t think I’d be sad either, but I kinda am. I’m very proud of my family. That, and when I try and practice there is literally a struggle to get my hand to keep writing after my first name. lol
Post # 8
i’m with you. i love my husband and i’m happy to take his name and become a family with him. but it’s so weird that all of a sudden i’m no longer my last name, and attached to my own family in that way. and it’s just weird because i can’t remember it. people ask me my name (strangers, like when i go to the bank) and i tell them the wrong name. and then i feel stupid. i don’t even know my own name!
Post # 9
It does feel weird. I’m glad I’m not the only one going through this. I’ve had my name for 30 odd years and it feels weird to change it.
Post # 10
Yep it was hard for me too. Although I went from a common hispanic last name to a not so common hispanic last name. It was def weird and just a couple days after my name change was official I went to the DR. for an appointment and they called out Mrs. E*** (my new last name) and it was the most awkward feeling ever. I soon got used to it and just love sharing the same last name as my husband.
Post # 11
HAPPY BIRTHDAY VIRGINIA ITALIANLASTNAME!!!!!!!!
Post # 12
HAHAHAHA THANK YOU MELISSSSSA!!!!!!!!!!!! you’re so cute, you rock.
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I am sad to lose it as well. My Swedish last name is long and is always butchered even though it’s pronounced how it’s spelled (never got that). But I am gaining a unique Bavarian last name, but since I grew up in a town with strong Swedish heritage I’m sad to lose it.
Post # 15
I hear ya!! I’m sad too but trying to not think about it way anymore and convincing myself I am excited to be Mrs S
I am making my maiden my middle name though (well second middle name bc I am also attached to my original middle LOL)
I thin hearing all the stories here about women keeping theirs or their reasons for doing so makes me even sadder, so I just won’t read those posts anymore!!!
Post # 16
HAHAHAHAHAH that is fabulous!!!!!!! Truly made me LOL. THANK YOU SO, SO, SO much! I am creepy! I can be totally creepy (half as creepy as MJ still means a whole lotta creep)—it’s a very fitting card.