Post # 1
…and I’m just sad. Sad that I haven’t enjoyed this process. Sad that I’m still not enjoying this process. Sad that not a SINGLE item off our registry has been purchased. Sad that no one wrote nice little personal notes when they had to decline our invitation. Sad that I don’t feel beautiful in my dress. Sad that I only lost 25 pounds, not the 60 I wanted. Sad that I feel like the ugliest person in my own wedding party. Sad that I feel distanced from my mom. Sad that none of my bridesmaids have helped much (not their fault, one lives four hours away and the other two just moved this week). Sad that I’ve only received two compliments on the invitations that I spent more than 80 hours on.
I’m happy that I’m getting married to my wonderful soon-to-be-husband. I still am (somehow) excited for the date to come, but I am disappointed in the way everything has unfolded.
I realize I’m just being selfish and whiny, but I just needed to vent in a space where (hopefully) people will understand.
Thanks for the sounding board.
Post # 3
🙁 Im sorry your feeling sad. The wedding process isnt fun at all to most brides so you shouldnt be hard on yourself.. Its not like you were the only one who experienced– hence why Im sure many brides will agree with you and wish for things to be much easier. With that being said, on your wedding day when everything has come together and all your hard work shows in your reception, you will feel so proud of all your accomplishments and hard work!
Post # 4
First off, kudos to you for losing 25 pounds–that is super impressive! Don’t let yourself think that’s not a big deal because it definitely is. You are going to look absolutely amazing in your dress and your fiance is going to be so proud to be marrying such a gorgeous woman.
It’s hard when it feels like other people don’t care as much as you do–my guess is that they’re just clueless. In general people don’t go out of their way as much as they should to compliment each other, so try not to take it too personally. I saw your invitations and they are fabulous! Do you think that maybe people are assuming you didn’t make them yourself because they turned out so well?
Can you take a “vacation” from wedding planning for a day or two? Maybe go on a date this weekend and agree to not talk or think about the wedding for a while? It might help you feel less stressed if you can take a break from it.
Post # 5
It makes me sad to hear that you’re so sad. 🙁 I’m so sorry this whole process has been stressful and that you don’t feel appreciated or valued. I hope you have a beautiful and fun wedding and that this period of feeling low passes soon…
Post # 6
Thank you for the responses. No date night for me – my Fiance is heading out of town for the entire week tomorrow, and I’m working nights. 🙁
Post # 7
i understand your hurt. i honestly thought wedding planning was a happy experience people checking in with you, helping, wanting to know details.
but its been a living hell. honestly. opinions, fights, wants, not caring, hatefulness. wedding planning at times has actually made me feel UNLOVED.
BUT with that said, the one person that matters the most is promising to be your biggest fan, stand beside you forever. So with the hurt comes a bigger gain.
You WILL look beautiful that say, I assure you. You WILL smile that day and you WILL have your forever.
Hang in there hun. You are NOT alone, not at all!
Post # 8
@Shelby81: I felt the same way before my wedding. My mom decided that she couldn’t make the trip. (Even though we were giving her travel, room, and board. We just asked that she bring a bit of spending money for any extras she wanted.) My brother screwed up in school this year and couldn’t miss any more days of school. My supposed “best friend” decided that she couldn’t make the trip, even though she wanted to be Maid/Matron of Honor and would have spent the same amount if I had the wedding in our hometown, which she lives 5 hours away from (once again, we paid room and board), then I found out she decided going to the beach was more important (in the beginning she was so enthusiastic that the 180 she did on the subject really hurt.)
Honestly, at the end of my school semester I sat with another girl getting married this summer and we both cried because we were so drained from school and we felt like we would never be able to be excited and our FIs didn’t deserve women that couldn’t even muster up the energy to be excited about the day they became their wives.
In the end, my real best friend, her fiance and my god daughter were our only guests and we had a blast and I got excited and the day was perfect. I wish it wasn’t over! Lol
Post # 9
aw sweetheart, dont be sad, people sometimes dont put that much attention to details, but you’ll see that on the big day everyone will be amazed! 🙂
Post # 10
I’m so sorry you’re feeling down, this is supposed to be such a happy time and you are not getting the feedback you were hoping to. You should be incredibly proud of yourself for the 25lbs you lost! Many people say they want to lose X amount of weight by a certain big event and end up the same or more at the time. I hope your big day is more to your expectations, you sound like you’ve worked hard and deserve it!