(Closed) Sad :( Will my wedding be boring?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a small wedding (about 60 ppl) on a sunday afternoon and it ended up being a BLAST> I was so worried it would be boring, but it ended up being a blast. dancing was the funest part. will you be having music?

Post # 4
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love small weddings! I’m sure it won’t be boring.  I wish we could have a smaller wedding but we’ll probably have at least 125. 

Post # 5
Hostess
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

No! Some of the most memorable and fabulous weddings I have been to were small and intimate. It isn’t the number of people you invite but the personalities that really make a party.

You will have a great time and you will have the pleasure of spending quality time with everyone rather than rushing to and from each table.

Post # 5
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had 52 people at my wedding. 

We had about 20 people on the “dance floor” at all times(it was a restaurant so there wasnt really a dancefloor).

Other people were mingling. It was amazing! 

I haven’t heard one bad thing about the night (other then it got really hott)

Post # 6
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6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Smaller weddings are often more intimate.  It may not be a wild and crazy insane party but that doesn’t mean it won’t be fun.  Maybe you could have a few lawn games if your venue has outdoor access.  I’m sure if you have some good tunes and delish food your guests will be happy.  They are there to celebrate YOU afterall!

Post # 8
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club

I don’t think so. You’ll get much more quality time with all the people you love. You’ll have more time to enjoy with everyone instead of spending a lot of time walking around to greet everyone.

Post # 10
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@AirForceFiance:I had between 50 and 60. I find weddings are only boring if you put too much in the program or a ton of inside jokes, not by how many people are there. People love to socialize and love to be given the time to do so. I had no speeches or powerpoints or videos. Just myself and my hubs saying thank you and enjoy the rest of the evening. Everyone LOVED it. So many family members commented on how many weddings they have gone to where there was so much in the program that they didnt have the time to sit and just chat and drink etc. Also if your stressed or nervous and basically not enjoying yourself it can set the mood for the rest of the guests. Other then that, 50 is an nice number of people. you will be able to get around and talk to everyone and the day will feel intimate and comfortable, plus its still enought people for a great party!! I say dont worry, Its not about how many are coming its about who is coming…

Post # 11
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1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The BEST wedding I ever attended, only had about 40 people. It was held in my cousins backyard, and they set up a big tent for everyone. They had activities like horse shoes, and bocce ball, and did a big cook-out picnic. It just seemed very fun and intimate for the group and perfect for the couple. I only hope mine is half that much fun, even though I’ll have more than double the people!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I actually prefer smaller weddings over big ones. Everyone gets a chance to talk to each other and meet people from different aspects of the couple’s lives (cousins meet friends, meet coworkers) and it much more “quality” time vs a huge wedding where people tend to stick to only the crowd they know and kinda stare at other people around the room.

Really, what it comes down to, is the guests. If they are the crowd to sit in their chairs and not “enjoy” the party, then that’s kinda a party-kill. But weddings are celebrations and people love them! 50 people is a party πŸ™‚

I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful evening and then you can come back here and tell us how wrong you were πŸ™‚

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

My daughter and her husband had a small wedding both by choice and circumstance. We invited about 90 people. Because of the travel (wedding was in Miami where they live and most relatives from PA) and visas being denied (groom from South America)— only 55 attended.

We had an awesome time! The wedding reception was during the day and was outside in a garden (ceremony was in church). We partied like it was New Year’s Eve. It was so nice that my daughter and her husband could spend lots of time with each guest. They weren’t rushed to try and visit with everyone. It left them lots of time to enjoy the reception and dance!

We all had so much fun! I think it was because all the closest friends and family were there. How could you not have a great time?

I was worried like you are. I was worried because the reception was during the day andthat  no one would want to dance, etc. I was worried everyone would sit around and stare at each other. I was having MOB nightmares!

Your day will be perfect. You will have a great time. Just relax! Like the other ladies have said- some of the best weddings I have been to have been the smallest ones!

Post # 14
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re in the same boat OP. I invited 78 and so far have about 45. I’m still waiting for about 15 RSVPS (which I think will say yes.)

I’m super nervous…especially since we have a larger ballroom. but the venue has assured me that they will spread us out and fill up the room. And we’re having stations for dinner options, so hopefully that will get some mingling happening.

I have pretty wide gaps in ages at the reception…about 25 ppl around my/my FI’s age who I excpect will be dancing a bunch…and then about 25 of the other generation who I don’t think will be as dancing.

It’s a really sad feeling when you don’t have a large wedding, but people keep telling me that it’s better in so many ways…less crowded, saving money, spending more time w/people you care about, etc.

With a month to go for me, I’m very hopeful that they are right! We’ll think positive together girly!!

Post # 15
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Our wedding was on a Thursday.  I had 40ppl @ our ceremony and 38ppl @ our wedding dinner.  We had a BALL.  We had our IPOD for music which was used as background music only so ppl could converse.   Everyone was able to socialize w/ one another because it was soo intimate.  Lots of picture taking and storytelling.  Also liked that we had open mike for our toast so it was more of a Roast instead of a Toast.LOL  It was also the first time in awhile we had our entire family together as well as the 1st time our families met.  We actually closed down the restaurant.(Ok, it was only 11pm but  since I only slept 4hrs the night before.)  We were soo exhausted by the time we made it to our hotel, I forgot how to get to our Honeymoon Suite.

It was one of our BEST DAYS of OUR LIVES!!!  Even though our ceremony was an hour late to due to beach traffic and ppl getting lost. 

Your day will be Beautiful and Wonderful regardless of the size. 

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