(Closed) SAD…but did/would you wear your ring to a job interview?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you/ Would you wear your ring to an interview?

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  • Post # 62
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Just my wedding band.  I wasn’t engaged when I interviewed for my current job but I’m about to start interviews again since I’m moving and I plan to stick to the wedding band.  I will wear my engagement ring to work but if I have to meet with a client I will take it off.

    Post # 63
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I am planning on an externship next semester that I hope will lead to a job. I’m not going to wear my ring or discuss my engagement with ANYONE for the length of the externship. In my state, it is DEFINITELY seen as a detriment.  Heck, TWO SEPERATE people I spoke with at my school about jobs after graduation immediately started talking to me about the maternity leave plans at different firms. I was like, wtf? Ok, so I would like to have a child at some point, but is that what you IMMEDIATELY think when I ask you about a firm? Would you have that conversation with a guy? No. You wouldn’t.

    Post # 64
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

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    @hisgoosiegirl:  Sounds great, but there aren’t a ton of jobs out there to be choosy about. If you leave out all the sexist employers, there are not many left for us to fight over!

    Post # 65
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would not wear my ring(s) to an interview.

    And contrary to most of the opinions here, the reason this is often done is not because the interviewer is sexist. It’s because subcosciously, they see diamonds, orwhat appears to be a diamond and think to themselves that if you can afford that, you may not need the job as much as another candidate. There was an article about this topic in one of my textbooks.

    Post # 66
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

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    @Tangled:  well it was never an issue for me. I was offered both jobs I interviewed for coming out of college, and both knew that I would be getting married. For me personally, I would rather wait for a better job than be at one that the environment would make me miserable. 

    Post # 67
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    At my current position, I wore my engagement ring to the interview and told them I needed a month off for my wedding, still got the job! I would always wear my rings to an interview. You never know what the employer thinks of it, could be that they think you’ll be leaving soon for baby making or could be that they think you’re more stable and reliable. 50/50 so I wear mine.

    Post # 68
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I did, and I also didn’t take my nose stud out, but then again I was applying for academia (graduate school, an assistantship) and it wasn’t really a big deal. I’m undecided what I will do after graduation in a few years, since I’ll have a wedding ring, a mildly visible tattoo (inside wrist), and a nose piercing… I guess I will either find people who are accepting or cover/take off all of my personality ;). That said, I don’t think I will completely remove my rings, but I may use a plain gold band so there are no inferences drawn about my financial status.

    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I interviewed for my current job within weeks of getting married. I only wore my wedding band  because I didnt want my engagement ring to be distracting if I motion with my hands. I got the job and instantly got pregnant. My boss and company have been extremely supportive and are even throwing me a shower. 

    Do what u are most comfortable with. If u feel like you’d worry about it, don’t wear it, you don’t need another distraction to think about. However, if u think u won’t be distracted, there isn’t a reason to not wear it. U wanna be confident at ur interview

    Post # 70
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I had an interview about two weeks ago and I debated taking off my engagement ring. It’s quite large and I imagine people judge me for it (although luckily no one has said anything!). I went in with the intention of taking it off and sticking it in my pocket, but at the last minute was like, “F- it” and wore it into the interview. They called me last Tuesday and offered me the job and I start next Tuesday. 

    That was my experience, but please take into consideration that although I wanted this job but didn’t necessarily NEED it, so if I didn’t get it then oh well. If I needed it I probably would have taken my ring off. There’s no harm in taking your ring off if you’re worried about it! 🙂 Best of luck!

    Post # 71
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    double post – oops!

    Post # 72
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not engaged, but I probably wouldn’t. The career office at my law school explictly told girls who were engaged/married (especially if they were young or looked young) not to wear their rings. As messed up as that is, I think the reality of certain industries is that engaged/married women are perceived as less likely to be driven and career-oriented.

    I think it really depends on what the job is, but I just wouldn’t chance it. 

    Post # 73
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not engaged, but I probably wouldn’t. The career office at my law school explictly told girls who were engaged/married (especially if they were young or looked young) not to wear their rings. As messed up as that is, I think the reality of certain industries is that engaged/married women are perceived as less likely to be driven and career-oriented.

    I think it really depends on what the job is, but I just wouldn’t chance it. 

    Post # 74
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I don’t think not wearing a ring will better your chances. I’m sure employers are onto this tactic, anyway. And not being married doesn’t do away with the shance of pregnancy, planned or otherwise.

    I’ll be wearing my rings to any future job interviews. What I do with my reproductive-future is my business, rings or not.

    Post # 75
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think the answer to this is extremely industry-specific and location-specific. IMO it’s a case of Know Your Demographic, and plan accordingly. 

    I’ll fall back on my SATC days for a moment:

    Miranda the lawyer didn’t want her parters to know she was pregnant, assuming they’d take away her good cases and people would be gunning for her office.

    Charlotte didn’t have to work, and the galleries she applied to for employment wouldn’t take her because she was too experienced… and wore her large ring (and money) proudly.

    Carrie took all kinds of flak for getting engaged the first time — how could she write a sex column if she’s married? — but as a self-employed author, she made it work in her favor the next time around. 

    Samantha didn’t want to marry and flaunted it, which got her as many promotions as it did refusals. 

    As for myself, I wear my rings. In my field it can be both beneficial and detrimental, depending on where you work and for whom you work — the conservatives want me to be married, the liberals don’t care if I’m married, the ultrafeminists hate that I’m married, etc. I do my research and adjust my approach accordingly. I also can’t hide my status because my resume says “formerly Firstname Maidenname” due to my published work prior to getting married.

    One thing to remember: employers are often *terrified* of discrimination accusations, so some of them will hire women of any social status for that reason alone. 

    Post # 76
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What are you gonna do lie – say your single and then once your hired be like oh yea i’m married. I would never even THINK about taking my ring off for a job interview. If someone was gonna not hire me because i was married then i wouldn’t want to work for that company because chances are if i was hired under a lie then i wouldn’t make it very far. Besides you are forgetting one thing – marriage=stability. Companies like to know you are settled down in this location and you aren’t gonna be moving next year. They want long term. When i was interviewed they asked me if i was planning on staying in the area. I told them we love it here and we are def. staying put – thats all they cared about. 

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