Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate
My Maid/Matron of Honor let me know yesterday that she will be moving to Washington DC in March of this year for a job. Its a really great opportunity for her and a big career move for her so I am happy for her.
I don’t have a ton of girlfriends so this makes me pretty sad when I think about it. It wouldn’t be half bad if it was just moving to DC, but after that she will be travelling abroad as her career and could be stationed anywhere around the world.
Have any of you ladies dealt with this? It’s not even so much that its around wedding time…I’m just sad that one of my closest friends is going to be SO far away.
Post # 3
@penguinbee: My BFF moved to Texas a few years back. We still have weekly skype dates and share all our secrets and take visits to see each other. It’s sad, but not a death sentence to your friendship.
Post # 4
I know what you’re going through. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives out of state and I miss having her around. There’s plenty of ways to stay connected online. Skype is a wonderful thing. I think the last time my Maid/Matron of Honor and I talked on Skype, it lasted 3 hours. Also, you have an excuse to see DC. DC is a pretty fun place 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@penguinbee: My BFF moved from Michigan to Utah last year and I miss her so much! We used to see each other 2+ times/week going out dancing, dinner, etc. I actually worried that my Darling Husband and I would struggle because I wouldn’t have anyone to bitch about him to! LOL But we’re doing fine.
I don’t talk to my BFF as much anymore because she hates calling anmd prefers texting but even texting…it’s not the same! And she’s so busy with her job.
Le sigh…. writing all that made me depressed.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I have two best friends, we have been a trio since elementary school. One is moving to Texas in March, and the other wants to move to NYC soon. I am sad, but I just try to think about it more positively – I can go to visit them and have a great time!
Post # 7
@penguinbee: It sucks but it is quite doable to keep the relationship alive.
One of my closest friends (since the start of high school) moved to Sweden after we finsihed University bcause she feel in love with a Swedish exchange student. That was over 15 years ago and we are still firm friends. We try and see each other when we can (about 1 a year) but with modern technology it is easy to keep in touch and see each other. I have seen her kids grow up through photos and facetime.
She and her family came to my wedding and I was there with my family when her brother suddenly passed away. It just takes effort but I think the friendship and what we have been through together is worth it. I would never let a little physical dostance get in the way of a strong and great friendship.
Post # 8
My Maid/Matron of Honor is moving to Connecticut on Sunday. We had our last hurrah this past weekend. It is sad, for sure, but an excuse to travel and visit!
Post # 9
@penguinbee: Yes – it’s actually rare in my friend group that people don’t move. We Google+ hangout, skype date, FB, email and visit. Visiting is kind of a big commitment, but it’s more about quality time than anything.
I’ve maintained relationships from high school and college that way, through 3-5+ different city / timezone moves. The main thing to realize is that just because she’s moved, doesn’t mean she’s gone. Your friendship is still there, just different.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate
You guys are all so sweet. It was just a total shock that she is moving. Like you guys all said, it gives me an excuse to travel to DC 🙂
I’ve had other, less close friends move away and it wasn’t a huge deal, we catch up whenever they are in town and text every once and a while. I think its just that she is the first really close friend to move away.
Post # 11
@penguinbee: my Maid/Matron of Honor is moving next week, 1000 miles away. I don’t have many friends close by either, and we’ve been best friends since 5th grade. It’s hard. I’m happy for her but sad.
Post # 12
@penguinbee: my BFF/MOH has been a long distance BFF for years. She went to Virginia for undergrad, and then Utah for grad school, and she’s staying in Utah. And I’m still in New England 🙁
All of my closest friends are out of state…Utah, Florida, Connecticut, New York, DC, Maryland…ugh
although I do have one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man that lives near Boston so that’s nice
It’s really hard when your friends are all over. Fortunately we are the kinds of friends who just pick up where we left off. Some of them I only see once/year if I’m lucky (our parents all live in the same town, so holidays are nice).
Just be good about phone calls/texting/skype, and you’ll be fine. And DC is fun to visit!
Post # 13
@penguinbee: one of my BFF’s currently lives in Edmonton (we haven’t lived in the same city for about 7 years) but about a month after my wedding she’s moving to India 🙁
It’s going to make staying in touch a whole lot harder.