(Closed) “Safe Days” – Do they exist?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you KNOW you’ve ovulated, then you’re “safe” starting 3 days after that. The rules to find out “how” you know that are a bit more complicated than I or probably anyone feels like typing out, so you should really just read the book.

As for the PO method…well, some people have had it work “successfully,” but many people have also had that fail…either through “user-error” or just b/c there IS some sperm that comes out earlier. As for the people who swear it “works,” well, unless they’ve also gotten pregnant successfully, then there is no way to prove that they’re just not infertile. And, it may just be a matter of time for them. So, if you’re using the PO method when you are *most* fertile, well, then it’s even more likely that you’ll get pregnant, same with a condom breaking. (if it does.)

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@StaceyA:  Is there a reason why you and your husband don’t want to use condoms?  If the issue is a latex allergy, there are polyurethane condoms available that are just as effective.  Inconvenience is an issue, but you are only looking for a short term fix for the next few months right? As for breakage, the likelyhood of that is so small.  I have never actually seen one break myself, nor have I heard form any of my girlfriends that this has happened to them.  Breakage comes from incorrect storage and incorrect use, which won’t be a problem if you spend 1min reading the instructions.  IMO this is your best bet, lowest risk, pretty low cost.

As for predicting your safe days, there’s this thing called a “ladycomp” that takes your temperature and stores the data, uses some algorithyms to predict your fertility, then tells you if it is “safe” or not.  Once you start trying to conceive, you can use it to try to see when you are most fertile.  Anyway, something to consider…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As far as I know, there are no guaranteed “safe days” even if you know when you’ve ovulated. It is possible to ovulate more than once a month so you can never really know for sure. 

As for the pull out method – I have two cousins who are the result of it not working. Sperm is released even before ejaculation so pulling out does not guarantee that none is in there. 

Just use condoms. It’s easy and cheap and there are many alternatives for every kind of allergy. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Black-Eyed-Susan:  It is possible to ovulate more than once… but only within 24 hours of the first egg being released. (which is why there is the extra 3-4 days tagged on.) Perhaps some people who are unfamiliar with their mucus might *think* they have ovulated, if they don’t know the rules very well, but especially if you have verified it with a clear temperature shift then you are safe. (once again, just read the book.) It is IMPOSSIBLE to randomly ovulate again after this point. I don’t know why you are advocating condom use, since they are one of the most likely contraceptive measures to fail. If you are correctly following the rules laid down in TCOYF, you are FAR more likely to have a condom break while you are fertile than to get pregnant with using the TCOYF rules!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@red_rose:  I meant to use condoms as an extra precaution instead of the PO method.  If the OP is already doing everything in TCOFY and still wants extra protection, I believe condoms to be the best option because the physical barrier is more reliable than pulling out. 

Though I do understand not wanting to use condoms. My SO and I hate them!

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