Post # 1
Now that I’m a newlywed, it seems I’ve been drawn to the newlywed/babies/pregnancy boards. Not that I’m pregnant, or TTC, but I guess that’s what’s next!
We have talked about if and when we have kids and I’ve said that I would like to be a Stay-At-Home Mom and Darling Husband would like that as well. We were both raised by SAHM’s and believe that if parents are able to so, they should. I’d probably be similar to my Mum in that once the kids are old enough I’ll take on a casual job and then just take on more hours until I’m full-time again when they leave.
So, with that, are you or will you be a Stay-At-Home Mom or Working Mom? If you don’t mind, explain why.
Post # 3
@CherryWaves: This is always an interesting topic. I would absolutely want to work full-time. I have worked hard to get a good education in a good field. Career success is very important to me personally and that makes it very hard for me to contemplate being a Stay-At-Home Mom. Also, I’m not willing to make the lifestyle adjustments required to live on only one income.
Post # 4
If/When I have kids after graduate school, I will continue to work. A) I can’t imagine doing 5 years of graduate school to just sit on the degree, B) It’s truly my passion and I really WANT to work in my field, and C) I watched my Stay-At-Home Mom get divorced after 18 years unexpectedly (my father cheated on her, but they were unhappy before that) and really struggle not only figuring out how to support herself, but figuring out what her own passion and fulfillment was outside of the home & kids. I’m lucky enough to have that passion already and I don’t want to waste it. I’m not knocking SAHMs, they do wonderful things with their lives and their homes/kids/spouses/anything they choose to do to supplement that. I just know that I need that outside-of-the-house, academic, paid fulfillment to be happy.
ETA: I want to work bad enough that I don’t care if every last dollar of my paycheck goes to a good daycare/nanny. How’s that for decisive 😛
Post # 5
I will be a full time working Mom.. there is no other way we can pay our mortgage and unfortunately I make too much to consider saving daycare costs, lol!
I joke about this with my friends, because I don’t make enough to cover daycare and the mortgage, but I make too much to stay home, lol! The money is going to have to come from somewhere, we will make it work.
Post # 6
I am a full time working mom with 2 girls (8 years, and 4 months old). I was raised by a Stay-At-Home Mom and admire those who want to do it, but it is not for me. Both maternity leaves I went back to work early. I enjoy my job and feel that I make a difference in people’s lives through my work. I want my daughters to grow up knowing that I make money and do important work in the community. I don’t feel that I am any less of a success as a mother because I work, some days I feel like superwoman. Also, as a side note, when my ex-husband walked out on our marriage, I was pretty damn glad that I worked and could support myself and my older daughter.
Post # 7
I think I’ll eventually hit all those categories, lol. I currently work full-time, but once baby #2 shows up, I’ll be a full-time Stay-At-Home Mom and grad student. I plan on taking a few years off to finish my degree and do some occasional/side work. When I get back into the workforce, I’ll probably go part-time for a while, and not go back to full-time until the kids are older.
Post # 8
I’m just not sure I could live on only one income. I live in a very expensive area. Darling Husband and I make about the same amount of money, so he’d have to double his income…
I also just can’t imagine staying at home all day with kids and cleaning nonstop.
Post # 9
We’ve talked about this and now that I’m pregnant we know what we’ll probably do. My husband makes more than enough to support us and keep us going. So I’ll probably stay at home until our youngest is around four or five and then go back to work. I’ve also considered trying to get at least a part time, work from home job at some point.
Also, once this one is around six months old, I’m going to apply to go back to graduate school or possibly get another bachelor’s degree.
Post # 10
When we had my youngest daughter I went back to work part-time. It saved us a lot in daycare and I got to be home with the kids more then at work. It was all about the numbers and seeing how I could make the most while reducing our monthly bills at the same time.
Now I work two 12 hour night shifts a week. It feels like I am a Stay-At-Home Mom that just works every once in a while. It works great for us. I get to be there for all the kids stuff and we have my income to cover the bills.
Post # 11
I think I will try to work part-time while my kids are young…I think that would make me happiest. Being home full time would wear on me, I think, while working full time would be stressful/difficult for other reasons. I think working 2-3 days a week would be the best of both worlds. Luckily, I think my current job would be flexible (and probably prefer for me to work part time) and Darling Husband makes enough to support us without my income.
Post # 12
full time working mom. We make about the same and could just barely get by, which isn’t enough for us so we’re not willing to give up my income.
Post # 13
I don’t think there is anything wrong with being a Stay-At-Home Mom, but personally that is not something I would want to do. I worked too hard in school and have worked my way up in my career that there is no way I would let that go. I plan on being a full time working mom, because I actually enjoy my job. Both of our parents have offered to watch our future kids so we wouldn’t have to pay for daycare, which is a HUGE bonus for us. Luckily we do not plan on having kids for another 6 plus years.
Post # 14
I’m a stay at home Mom and have been since my son was 8 months old he is now 3. It’s not for every one and sometimes I wish I still worked. I also have 3 other children and 1 daycare girl she is 1 1/2. I do think I sacrificed any social life I had before becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom but my son is a very spirited child and I wasn’t happy with the way he was being handled in daycare so the sacrifice is worth it to me. At least 2 out of 7 days a week I think I’m going to go crazy but I survive and know it’s the best thing for our family and my son. I also have really good days and I’m thankful to be able to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.
Post # 15
I am a Stay-At-Home Mom. My Fiance works hard so I can stay at home. We plan to have a houseful of kids both biological and adopted (in addition to the two we have) so it makes no sense for me to go to work. Salary would soon equal childcare costs. 🙂 Besides I think it is a wonderful gift to give your children. If I was working I wouldn’t be able to be as involved in their lives as I am now. I am a give your all kind of person and struggled to split my efforts between work and home.
Post # 16
I struggle with the decison between working mom and Stay-At-Home Mom. I would love to stay at home but I also worked really hard to get where I am and I couldn’t imagine putting that on hold, especially since the work field is so competitive. My goal is to be a full time working mom but work from home 2 times a week, that way I get the best of both worlds. My boss doesn’t believe in part time, and honestly part time doesn’t really exist in my career field, so working from home seems like a great option.