(Closed) SAHM or Working Mom?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Will you be or are you...
    A Stay At Home Mom : (40 votes)
    26 %
    A Full-Time Working Mom : (72 votes)
    46 %
    A Part-Time Working Mom : (38 votes)
    25 %
    A Casual Working Mom : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @CherryWaves: This is always an interesting topic. I would absolutely want to work full-time. I have worked hard to get a good education in a good field. Career success is very important to me personally and that makes it very hard for me to contemplate being a Stay-At-Home Mom. Also, I’m not willing to make the lifestyle adjustments required to live on only one income.

    Post # 4
    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If/When I have kids after graduate school, I will continue to work. A) I can’t imagine doing 5 years of graduate school to just sit on the degree, B) It’s truly my passion and I really WANT to work in my field, and C) I watched my Stay-At-Home Mom get divorced after 18 years unexpectedly (my father cheated on her, but they were unhappy before that) and really struggle not only figuring out how to support herself, but figuring out what her own passion and fulfillment was outside of the home & kids. I’m lucky enough to have that passion already and I don’t want to waste it. I’m not knocking SAHMs, they do wonderful things with their lives and their homes/kids/spouses/anything they choose to do to supplement that. I just know that I need that outside-of-the-house, academic, paid fulfillment to be happy.

     ETA: I want to work bad enough that I don’t care if every last dollar of my paycheck goes to a good daycare/nanny. How’s that for decisive 😛

    Post # 5
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I will be a full time working Mom.. there is no other way we can pay our mortgage and unfortunately I make too much to consider saving daycare costs, lol!

    I joke about this with my friends, because I don’t make enough to cover daycare and the mortgage, but I make too much to stay home, lol! The money is going to have to come from somewhere, we will make it work.

    Post # 6
    7404 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I am a full time working mom with 2 girls (8 years, and 4 months old).  I was raised by a Stay-At-Home Mom and admire those who want to do it, but it is not for me.  Both maternity leaves I went back to work early.  I enjoy my job and feel that I make a difference in people’s lives through my work.  I want my daughters to grow up knowing that I make money and do important work in the community.  I don’t feel that I am any less of a success as a mother because I work, some days I feel like superwoman.  Also, as a side note, when my ex-husband walked out on our marriage, I was pretty damn glad that I worked and could support myself and my older daughter.

    Post # 7
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think I’ll eventually hit all those categories, lol.  I currently work full-time, but once baby #2 shows up, I’ll be a full-time Stay-At-Home Mom and grad student.  I plan on taking a few years off to finish my degree and do some occasional/side work.  When I get back into the workforce, I’ll probably go part-time for a while, and not go back to full-time until the kids are older.

    Post # 8
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m just not sure I could live on only one income. I live in a very expensive area. Darling Husband and I make about the same amount of money, so he’d have to double his income…

    I also just can’t imagine staying at home all day with kids and cleaning nonstop.

    Post # 9
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We’ve talked about this and now that I’m pregnant we know what we’ll probably do.  My husband makes more than enough to support us and keep us going.  So I’ll probably stay at home until our youngest is around four or five and then go back to work.  I’ve also considered trying to get at least a part time, work from home job at some point.  

    Also, once this one is around six months old, I’m going to apply to go back to graduate school or possibly get another bachelor’s degree. 

    Post # 10
    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    When we had my youngest daughter I went back to work part-time. It saved us a lot in daycare and I got to be home with the kids more then at work. It was all about the numbers and seeing how I could make the most while reducing our monthly bills at the same time.

    Now I work two 12 hour night shifts a week. It feels like I am a Stay-At-Home Mom that just works every once in a while. It works great for us. I get to be there for all the kids stuff and we have my income to cover the bills.

    Post # 11
    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think I will try to work part-time while my kids are young…I think that would make me happiest. Being home full time would wear on me, I think, while working full time would be stressful/difficult for other reasons. I think working 2-3 days a week would be the best of both worlds. Luckily, I think my current job would be flexible (and probably prefer for me to work part time) and Darling Husband makes enough to support us without my income.

    Post # 12
    14484 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    full time working mom.  We make about the same and could just barely get by, which isn’t enough for us so we’re not willing to give up my income.

    Post # 13
    2822 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with being a Stay-At-Home Mom, but personally that is not something I would want to do. I worked too hard in school and have worked my way up in my career that there is no way I would let that go. I plan on being a full time working mom, because I actually enjoy my job. Both of our parents have offered to watch our future kids so we wouldn’t have to pay for daycare, which is a HUGE bonus for us. Luckily we do not plan on having kids for another 6 plus years.

    Post # 14
    1144 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m a stay at home Mom and have been since my son was 8 months old he is now 3. It’s not for every one and sometimes I wish I still worked. I also have 3 other children and 1 daycare girl she is 1 1/2. I do think I sacrificed any social life I had before becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom but my son is a very spirited child and I wasn’t happy with the way he was being handled in daycare so the sacrifice is worth it to me. At least 2 out of 7 days a week I think I’m going to go crazy but I survive and know it’s the best thing for our family and my son. I also have really good days and I’m thankful to be able to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.

    Post # 15
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I am a Stay-At-Home Mom. My Fiance works hard so I can stay at home. We plan to have a houseful of kids both biological and adopted (in addition to the two we have) so it makes no sense for me to go to work. Salary would soon equal childcare costs. 🙂 Besides I think it is a wonderful gift to give your children. If I was working I wouldn’t be able to be as involved in their lives as I am now. I am a give your all kind of person and struggled to split my efforts between work and home.

    Post # 16
    368 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I struggle with the decison between working mom and Stay-At-Home Mom.  I would love to stay at home but I also worked really hard to get where I am and I couldn’t imagine putting that on hold, especially since the work field is so competitive.   My goal is to be a full time working mom but work from home 2 times a week, that way I get the best of both worlds.  My boss doesn’t believe in part time, and honestly part time doesn’t really exist in my career field, so working from home seems like a great option. 

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