(Closed) SAHM or Working Mom?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Will you be or are you...
    A Stay At Home Mom : (40 votes)
    26 %
    A Full-Time Working Mom : (72 votes)
    46 %
    A Part-Time Working Mom : (38 votes)
    25 %
    A Casual Working Mom : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 17
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    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    I plan on doing part time. I have a side business right now that is more of a hobby, so i plan on keeping that going when we have kids and get out of the corporate world. it’s mostly research and planning then doing events on the weekends. Plus i will be able to have more time to get into the campagining in my area which is my passion.

     We are really lucky because Darling Husband has a great job with great bennifits so i have the ability to stay home and raise our kids (when we have them). My mom was a Stay-At-Home Mom and i loved it but Darling Husband was a daycare kid and he hated it, so it made the choice for us really easy.

    Fingers crossed that i’m able to build the business so when the kids are in school it has turned into a full time gig.

    Post # 18
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    10285 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I will be a Stay-At-Home Mom. Part of the prerequisite to us having children is being able to afford to have me stay home. We could technically swing it now but that would mean giving up a lot of the extras that we enjoy (like premium cable & fancy toys) and neither of us are really willing to do that. With the cost of daycare, it often isn’t even worth it for one parent to work. If it’s between taking home $200 a week after paying for childcare or being home with my kid, I would pick the latter. 

    Post # 19
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    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The plan now is I will be a working mom.

    Couple reasons: I’m not sure if I can stay at home 24/7. I absolutely love love love kids. But staying at home 24/7… I might go crazy.

    I LOVE my job. It’s not just a job that pays. I’ve wanted to be an architect since I was a young girl. It’s my dream career. Mind you I’m not a hugely career driven person but I do love my job. If it was just a paycheck kinda job I might feel differently.

    We can not afford our mortgage and bills w/o me working without making huge sacrifices.

    Day care is not taking a huge chunk out of our paychecks. If it were I would re-consider.

    I think the other thing is I grew up in a family where both parents worked full time, long long hours. When I was old enough I picked up a lot of the household slack, it’s just how it is in my culture. Moms don’t stay at home, we could not afford to. So working mom is a norm to me. Whereas my husband’s mom did stay at home but he’s totally on board with me working after baby as well.

    That being said the thought of putting my infant in daycare makes me want to throw me up. I’m really hoping my boss will allow me to work from home on day a week. Then my husband is off one day a week as well so that will bring it down to 3 days a week in daycare for baby.

    But that’s the plan for now we’ll see how I feel after baby comes! I know plenty of moms who planned to go back full time after baby and just could not handle it and ended up quitting!

    Post # 20
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    4335 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I want to be either a Stay-At-Home Mom, or possibly work very part-time. One great suggestion that I’ve heard, that we plan on doing, is while you both are able to work, live on only one salary, and put everything else straight into savings. Then, when you do have a baby, you not only have a nice chunck of savings, but you are completely free to decide how much to keep working, without worrying that you will have to cut-back on your lifestyle or else feel forced to keep working.

    Post # 21
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    7310 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We all work full time as parents; there is no such thing as a part-time mom. I also work full-time outside of our home because I need it for my own sanity. I need the mental stimulation and challanges and adult interaction that my career provides. I couldn’t wait to go back to work after DS was born.  Being a stay-at-home-parent is right for some people and wrong for others. It would definitely be wrong for me.

    Post # 22
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    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t currently have kids, but have full intentions of being a full-time working mom.  My career is very important to me.  Also, I wouldn’t want to give up my income.  I make an amount that would not equal childcare.

    Post # 23
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    468 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I will stay home until they are 5-6. I plan on finishing up my degree online while staying home! It will be hard but worth it 🙂

    Post # 24
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    2201 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m hoping to transition back into work with 4 weeks of part-time before going full-time after the baby is born. I don’t think I’m cut out to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, and Darling Husband also says I make too much money to stay home, and that when I am off work I cost him money because I get bored and go shopping Innocent

    Post # 25
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    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Our ultimate plan is that I’ll stay home until our youngest child goes into school K-5…assuming we have 2, and they aren’t too far apart. We’d love to have one soon and then have another 1-2 years later. That’s what my Mom did and I think it was highly successful and hasn’t hindered her career AT ALL – she makes a lot more than I ever even aspire to, I’ll just say.

     I’ll start working on my Masters during the last few years I’m at home as well, and then look for jobs related to that. I would also try and make some sort of part-time/casual working money. My Mom sold Pampered Chef and worked at our playgroup’s the 2 days a week that we went.

    Post # 26
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    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The plan is for me to be a Stay-At-Home Mom and I couldn’t be more excited about it 🙂 My husband is completely on board and excited about it too so I think that definitely helps. We won’t be rolling in the dough with just his income but we’ll be making it and the monetary sacrifice is worth it to us.

    Post # 27
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    We could afford for me to stay home once we have kids but it would mean giving up a lot of the little luxuries that we enjoy and to me, staying home isn’t worth giving up that AND my career.

    Post # 28
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    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I voted casual working mom? Technically I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom but I do a casual daycare out of my home caring for a friend’s two children. One just for a few hours after school, the other is a toddler and that’s full time Mon-Fri from 9ish-5ish. It’s a really good compromise for us. I don’t make a lot but between that income and what we save on not paying for daycare we are able to live comfortably on DH’s income. We’re not rich by any means but we can pay all our bills, go out to eat, take vacations and not feel strapped for cash. I know a lot of families really scrimp to get by with only one parent working and if that was the case for us I’d probably go back to work, at least part time. I like that my daughter has friends to play with during the day, yet I get to stay home and hang in my pjs if I want, lol. I did work full time till my daughter was 18 months old and I do miss socializing with adults, I have to admit. Also dressing up in cute outfits, haha. 

    Post # 29
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    6887 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I just started back up full time from maternity leave. We are going to see how it goes.  I have to say I miss my son a lot!

    Post # 30
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    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m  a Stay-At-Home Mom. I love it. Once my son is in full time school, I’ll go back to work. I’d rather be making money, than spending it.

    Post # 31
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    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    It’ll depend.  We haven’t quite decided b/c we aren’t sure where we’ll end up.  It looks like we might be going to San Francisco which is like triple the cost of living we’re accustomed to.  So for now, I’m going to say that we’ll hold off on our TTC plans until we move out.  If I do end up pregnant, then I’d likely stay home for a little while and then eventually go back to school or work part time.  Eventually I want to go to medical school but there are few professional/school related things I need to accomplish before then. 

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