(Closed) SAHM or Working Mom?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Will you be or are you...

    A Stay At Home Mom

    A Full-Time Working Mom

    A Part-Time Working Mom

    A Casual Working Mom

  • Post # 32
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m hoping to work part-time after we have a baby. (Like 3 full days a week or 5 half days a week) My company is very flexible and my boss has already told me this would be fine. (She knows I’m going through IVF and miscarried last year so we’ve already talked about my future work plans after having a baby)  I couldn’t stay home full-time because I need social interaction and enjoy working. I think I’d go nuts at home. But if I worked full-time I think I’d miss my baby/child too much. So I think part-time will be perfect! 🙂

    Post # 33
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I’m probably not going to have kids, but I know that if I do, I will be stay at home.  I get tired so easily, I just don’t think I could handle a job and a kid. I don’t know how working moms do it! I hope they all get mom-of-the year awards. 

    Post # 34
    1675 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    In my career this really isn’t an option.  If I want to stick with my career path, then I have to work full-time.  If I take more than a few months off for maternity leave it will almost definitely damage my career prospects.  I think if I really had the choice, I would prefer to work 3-4 days/week and have some more time with my kids while they’re little, but unfortunately that just won’t work out. 

    Post # 35
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I definitely want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.  I want to be with my (future) kids 24/7 and make a fun home-life for us and the DH.  However, my student loans make that life a joke Frown


    I need to work full time for 10 years to have my loans forgiven.  Luckily, in my current position full-time is considered anything over 30 hours.  I’m hoping to be able to decrease my hours to 32 and work from home 1 day per week.  My husband can work from home one day as well, so that will leave only two days of day care.

    We’ll see what happens when the time comes!!


    Post # 36
    3774 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I am a Stay-At-Home Mom of two girls.  We were both determined that this is what we wanted from the very beginning and can afford to do it.  I don’t being with them for even a second.

    Post # 37
    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom.  And I LOVE it.  I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    I didn’t hear the proverbial clock ticking until my mid-30s, so in some ways I never thought I’d have kids.  But when my husband and I got married, I started to envision a life with children.  And we both agreed that we would rather I stay home and raise our children — at least until school age.  Day care is a fine choice.  But it’s not for me.  I’m thankful that we’re in a position where we can live on my husband’s salary for a few years.

    That said, there is a small amount of freelance work that I do periodically.  But that’s pretty rare, and it’s something I do to simply to keep my contacts and my mind engaged.

    Edit:  I should add that I have a master’s degree that I worked hard for and paid dearly for.  I love my chosen career path.  But at the end of the day — and at the end of my life — I have a feeling that what will give me the greatest satisfaction will be my family, not my career.

    Another edit:  When my daughter screams because she’s tired, I want to be the one to soothe her.  Not because I think someone else couldn’t do it; I believe that day care agencies are staffed with loving, caring individuals.  But I want that opportunity myself, because I’m selfish. 🙂

    Post # 38
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I just had to chime on this thread because I JUST found out today that I’m going to be a full-time WAHM (work-at-home mom).  I’d never considered that option before because it just seemed too hard to swing in my field (I’m an attorney).  But an opportunity just fell in my lap to work from home full time.  I’m super excited about it, especially since we’re having our first baby in June.  We’re going to hire a full-time nanny to provide childcare during my work day, but I’m super happy that I get to avoid commuting and daycare pickups and drop offs.  And buying maternity office clothes.

    If it wasn’t for this opportunity, I’d be working outside the home full time.

    Post # 39
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Unfortunately my income in our primary one so I’ll need to go back to work (I really like my job, though). My husband works mornings only (like 5:30-11ish-he’s a barista) and so our plan is to do daycare in the mornings, maybe a nanny if we can find someone for mornings. Luckily we are in a smaller town and neither one of us commutes very far.

    Post # 40
    1550 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i never thought i would be a stay at home mom, but it’s looking like that’s the way it is going to be.

    Post # 41
    7365 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Financially not sure that we can swing it, so I probably end up being a FT working mom. Ideally, I would like to be Stay-At-Home Mom –but only for the first 1 or 2 years max. However, I’d feel more comfortable earning an income by either working from home or with a PT job. I will need interest outside of the home a few days a week and I like being control of my income. We defintely plan on starting a business together so ideally any work I do will be for the ‘family’ anyway.

    Maybe I could stretch juggling being a W/SAHM up the preschool years, then its defintely its back to work FT. I don’t see the point of being Stay-At-Home Mom once the kids are in school. Frankly most of the women in my family were working women so its model that I’m comfortable with.

    Post # 42
    10713 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was a full time working momma but I lost my job and now I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom because I can’t find a job that works with the hours he’s at school and he can’t go to daycare because it’d cost more than I’d be making… pointless. I’m still looking for a job though- we could use some extra money.

    Post # 43
    630 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We would prefer for me to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, but kids are expensive lol. I voted casual working mom because I do work PT but it is not in a professional field. We were both raised by SAHM’s.

    Post # 44
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I be will a Stay-At-Home Mom once we have children.  I make almost as much as my husband so it will be tough on one income for sure.  What we’ve been doing is just trying to live on his income and only use my income when we splurge on something that we could live without (our honeymoon to Mexico and my DSLR camera for Christmas!)  We were both raised by SAHMs so it is really important to both of us; we are also on planning on having at least 4, so daycare wouldn’t be a very feasible option anyways.

    That being said, I would like to come up with some creative ideas to generate some income from home.  Perhaps looking after another child or two, bookkeeping (I have a business diploma specializing in accounting), or something like that.

    Post # 45
    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I run my own business , I will always work to some capacity. That being said I never work myself more than 30 hours a week now , so that would be the most I would work regardless.

    Post # 46
    7768 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have given this a lot of thought.  I would never be happy or feel fulfilled if I gave up on life and dropped out to be just a mom.  Wait!  These are my personal feelings, I am not judging anyone else- I have UTMOST respect for mothers, both working and non-working.  Allow me to explain:  I think raising good kids is the most important and difficult job and it can be done by working and non-working mothers.  For me though, I have so many goals and when I have kids I hope to fit them into my life and continue (although I will have to take breaks to be there for them completely- like the first year of their lives) to meet my own life goals.  I think this is healthy for everyone.  (Again, I am not saying others can’t do that while not-working, or working- whatever works for you.)

    For me though, I am motivated in my career and it is more than a career.  I give 100% of myself to everything.  I plan to take off 1 year, and then work toward my goals after that.  I want to get 1-2 Masters degrees and continue working part-time at my job.  I might even consider working part-time after maternity leave (if by the time we have kids I am there long enough to qualify, otherwise I will readjust again to meet other goals).  I plan to have a business as an artist, teach, and get MFAs.  So, if I can stay at my job part-time I probably will, if not I will work toward some of my other life goals. 

    ETA:  I really do not believe that everyone should be a Stay-At-Home Mom if they can be.  I teach 4 year olds at an art preschool and it is SUCH an amazing place.  It is good for my kids to be there- learning to listen to others, to socialize, to take responsibility for their choices.  I just wanted to add that I do not think there is a right or wrong formula, but I disagree that every child should be raised by a Stay-At-Home Mom.  My kids (that I teach- I call them my “kids”) are SO well prepared for Kindergarten and the rest of their lives because they attend my school!  I cannot image a better start for them.

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