Post # 16
I would have a conversation with him about how important it is to put the phone down and play until little ones are in bed. I nanny for a few different families, one dad is super involved and the kids get so excited when he gets home, the other Dad spent the first 5 years coming home giving a kiss and then ignoring them and watching tv- now he has to pretty much bribe them for a hug when he gets home as they barely bat an eye when he gets home as he hasn’t been a big part of their lives for the first 5 years
Post # 17
I find that pretty offensive that you categorize that as “a male thing”! Not all males are like that! Sorry but my dad is a great dad! He was constantly doing things with my brother and I. And Darling Husband is a great dad with our boys. I also have friend’s that DH’s are great, involved dads too.
In My Humble Opinion – if the guy doesn’t want to help out with his kids then he is pretty darn selfish and it is the child who is going to suffer in the end. Sorry but guys like that really piss me off. Get off your ass and play with your kids!
Post # 18
Um, this is not a “male thing” and it’s a reinforcement of 1950s stereotypes to say that fathers are the ones earning money and barely interacting with their children while the mothers raise the kids. That sort of behavior would be completely unacceptable in my household (and the household of families I know).
I think you need to be a lot more clear and forceful with your husband that he needs to step it up. I also think you’re making excuses for him by saying that his behavior is a result of not having a father figure in his life. Nobody needs to be taught that they’re suppose put down their video game to play and interact with their own child. Frankly, his behavior would be grounds for divorce if it continued like this because he himself does not see the importance of developing his relationship with his child. It shows lack of maturity, incredible selfishness, and general lack of caring for his family, which are fundamental character flaws that I’m not sure can be fixed by nagging him to spend time with her. 5 minutes a night is ridiculous. Don’t be a pushover. You need to stand up for yourself and your daughter. I grew up with a father who was barely involved and it has everlasting effects on our relationship and how I view my childhood.